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writes:Hey. I am crushing on a girl right now. We met one and a half years ago, but never talk and aren't close. I don't see her often, so my main form of communication with her would be through digital means.I have been rejected a couple of times before, and I know the feeling kinda sucks. I'm afraid that one more blow will just kill me.One more thing is, before I liked the girl, I liked her close friend. She knows that.I'm driven by this small possibility that we could be together and she does fancy me. But nothing can be confirmed. She's pretty in my eyes. And I can't get to find out more about her unless I actually talk to her over the internet. The question is, will she suspect anything if I suddenly start talking to her after not having done so for a long time? Also, should I reveal even that I have feelings for her?I know girls like to spread stuff they know so inevitably I will build a bad reputation for myself.And it would be awkward if she knew because she'll be wondering why I switched targets in such a short period of time (especially if the previous was her close friend).Help me. This dilemma is driving me nuts. It's not doing my studies any justice either.
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reader, Thornbirds  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 How can you catch a fish if you don't go near the water? Know where she hangs out most often and make yourself visible.There's no other way to know her personally unless you exert effort to come close to her.Each girl has her own standard, and who knows yours meet hers? Don't show any eagerness to start a serious relationship with her, as she might back off after knowing your intention. Just start by being friendly,give her time to know you,also. Once you get her trust, then you can decide when is the best time to reveal your true feelings.There's nothing to lose in trying.As to her friend, don't worry, even married couples separate. Just be confident. Your self- confidence will boast your appeal. Good luck!
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reader, Molly0102 +, writes (29 March 2011):
I understand your concerns and worries but if you really like er then go ahead and tell her how you feel. Sure, she might be taken aback at your confession but girls aren't that dumb, if you always talk to her online etc, she's bound to sense that you're somewhat interested in her. Furthermore, I'm sure she'll appreciate your bravery for telling her you like her. If you're still worried, why not take a longer time to get to know her better? Afterall,You need to really spend time with her before deciding whether you really like her or not. Good luck :)
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