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writes:I'm devastated.I have an LDR of 3.5 years and we were going to meet for the very first time in July.He went out two nights ago with his cousin and his cousin's girlfriend. His cousin's girlfriend's feelings fluctuates from hating to loving. Well, there was drinking involved. My boyfriend and her shared a taxi while his cousin stayed at the bar.I was at home, writing a letter about how much I loved him. We send emails very often, and I know he loves waking up to them and he always returns the gesture. I was telling him that no matter what, I'll love him and person. And if he's scared of his imperfections, I'll learn to love them anyways. And I told him about to stop with the 'I don't deserve you' talk, because it went on yesterday. So.. at 10pm or so, after he had gone to bed and after I wrote that loving email, I went onto his Facebook (he gave me his pw along time ago) and was going to surprise him with a picture of our shared stuffed animal, a panda.Well, I noticed a message from his cousin's girlfriend, and I didn't want to read it. So I went to her page and one of her statuses set to "Guilty." and I was thinking, there's something going on here. So I do a double check at the message. I shouldn't have read it but I did anyways because he always told me he had nothing to hide from me.I couldn't read it clearly through my tears. I was crying so hard. It had something to do with how she needed some affection, and that they were both drunk, that it shouldn't have happened, and that he didn't mean to split her and his cousin up, and that it was best to forget about it.The first hour was hard. The second, I couldn't sleep. And I cried myself to sleep within 45 minutes and woke up two hours later. I've been up since 4 am waiting for him to get online.I honestly think I'll forgive him, since he was drunk, and I love him so much. I've spent two years without him already (we would have a 5 LDR relationship if we didnt have a 2 year break up) and I don't want to lose him again.I'm scared. I can't breathe. I feel like throwing up. Is being drunk a legit excuse to do w/e to another girl? I do not know if they kissed or made out or had sex.I keep thinking of him and her together. I can't eat. I can't sleep. Help me, please.
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reader, auntyR  +, writes (1 May 2011):
come into the real world and meet real people. For all you know this guy could be someone different to what he has said to you. He may of told you he is a doctor or something, when really he is unemployed. Get my drift! Take up some interests and meet new people and one day u will meet someone special. Forget the "cyber bf". There is no such thing as a online relationship, it;s just fantasy.
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reader, auntyR +, writes (30 April 2011):
hang on i'm confused...you are in a relationship with someone you have never met? How does that even work, no offence, but him being a man will want to have had sex in the last 3 years. I think you should forget about him and find yourself a nice guy who you can see whenever you want and start a real relationship with him. How can you be seriously happy being with someone you have never met?!
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