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writes:I'm considering quitting my job to be a stay-at-home mom. I've been working all my life. I don't have kids yet, but planning to soon. I heard it gets lonely. Should i do it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): i dnt think its a good decision u will get bored staying at home.i have a baby and took two months maternity leave n couldnt help but long to get back to work.its not like i dont love my baby i do but i think u will be too depressed if u stay at home
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): Do you need to answer this problem before you get pregnant? I have been off work and doing part time study for a year. This has helped for something to do but the boredom in between is quite overwhelming. Be warned you need to keep sociable because I have not and I am paying for it with anxiety attacks and depression.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (14 May 2008):
My mum was a stay at home mum and I am SO SO SO thankful she was. I had the best childhood because she was ALWAYS there. Alot of my friends grew up in homes where both parents worked, they were like 'latch key kids'. Due to having the extra income (with two parents working) the parents would use that income to give there kids guilt money because they were never able to be fully suportive parents due to the time there work took away from then. I would hate to grow up like that and I can see how most of my friends who have grown up like that, have weak relationships with there parents.
I dont see how you can get bored...unless you're a bit of a slacker. I think if your a mum who puts in all the effort she can be, to the best mum, then she will be non stop busy doing things!!! As for being lonely, well you would be stuck at home most days with kids, no grown ups to talk to and I know this was something that my mum found a bit anoying. But what you can do is join some sort of social group like someon else suggested, this would help alot.
I would say give it a go atleast and you can awlays go back into the workforce if you really dont like it. But yeah, in my opinion, having a stay at home mum gives a child the best upbringing possible.
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 while its extre,mly rewarding to be a stay at home mom, and its not necessarily lonely if ur in moms groups or other community programs that connect u to other parents etc. however, who wants to be surrounded by like with like ALL THE TIME? but, it does very much help with personal sanity and ur relationship with ur other half to have a part time job even, not even necessarily a full time job. u can still get the joy of making xtra cash for ur small needs and feel fulfilled and be at ease knowing ur not throwing ur child on a sitter etc. in my situation i live in an isolated mining town in the bush. yes. the bush. and my mans family and my own live nowhere even remotely close to us. neither that, and the fact my man is extremly anal about any one babysitting our child, as she cannot fully communicate to us anything should there be an issue of abuse, neglect, or even something minor like being yelled at!so i stay at home at the moment caring for her. and he works at the mine. i wont lie. my sanity runs thin. because i wish i had a job. but unfortunately i have no qualifications towork in the mining industry and theres nothing else available here in this hick town for me to do. thus, i stay home. and, every childs needs are different, so if u work full time and see ur child needs u more than either u cut ur hours and meeet the childs needs or u quit, whatever works for u is best and nobody should ever guilt trip u into feeling ur a horrible mom for working out of home, and u should not be made to feel bad if u choose to be a stay at home mom. lord knows its a full time job many dont understand and appreciate. hell, many men give women enough shit for being stay at home moms thinking how hard is it to watch a kid and lift a rag, a mop and push a vac? well, only the single dads and stay at home dads can attest to the real truth behind the mystery of parenthood, or, what was once just strictly, motherhood since men back then played little part in raising the kids besides bringing home the breAD and butter and occassional discipline etc of the children.so my dear, its a decision and judgemnet call only u can wisely make, along with the opinion of ur partner. and remember, his opinon should matter. in my opinion, whoever makes the most money is the most qualified to work outside the home. and the other can option to stay home and parent, or be both a contributor to the daily bread, and be the primary caregiver too. i hope i helped u out on this! message me if u like on ur thoughts on my answer. thx
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 That is what I used to want to be, just a stay at home mom. My sister was a stay at home mom for 2 years before getting back into the work force. I was told you get very bored and the monotony of it all gets overwhelmingly depressing at times. But that is not everyone, you may love being a stay at home mom. I wouldn't quit your job until you get pregnant though obviously. Is it that you don't like your job all that much or do you just really want to be home with your children always? Do you think if you absolutely loved your job you would still want to do this? In any case you don't really have to make a decision until you get pregnant. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): yea of course i mean kids are beautiful... they fill your life up ... having kids is beautiful thing and you should consider it if u like kids think abt it see if this really what you want and that you have time for them to raise them.. good luck
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (14 May 2008):
 you may not get pregnant for months even years. You'd be bored silly.
Why don't you make this decision when you get pregnant ?
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