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writes:I had been seeing this really nice guy for 4 months. We always had problems as we are long distance, and he finds it difficult to communicate and is sometimes away as he is in the military. We tried to stay close by texting often.2 weeks ago we saw each other, and it went weird. I guess he was trying to open up, and it was freaky. I think be both wanted the same thing, but it was intense. Then he pulled away, and I got clingy- I asked him to ring me so we could talk, and I haven't heard from him since. I've texed a few times, but he wont reply.He's been on a few times on the dating site where we met, and my gut gets twisted every time I see him log on as I'm not on there anymore. But I don't know if its over? I still have feelings for him, and still hope to hear from him, am I being foolish? Is there any way he just got scared, and will realise and get back in touch? I have always been there for him when he needed me- was this all my imagination?I know only time will tell, but I am so hurt and don't know what to do. He seems so cold and so unlike the guy I was connected to. Hope someone can give me some good advice- thanks
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 I think he's emotionally unavailable and this is partly why you want him so much. He's like a complicated puzzle you can't figure out how to solve. But emotionally unavailable men are just that. They seldom change and you will spend the rest of your life trying to get close to him. I think you should step back and give yourself some time to get over him. Long distance relationships rarely work out, especially when only one of you is trying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2010): If he was in war there are some things you see you can never take back. But if he truley loves you then you guys will reconnect; like I always tell my girlfriend, love is forever. Plus military isn't always the fastest to respond, I want to ask my girl friend that but the military truely does make you more edgy on the emotional long term relationships. I hope I helped, good luck.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 So you were just "seeing" or were you actually boyfriend/girlfriend? If you weren't boyfriend/girlfriend then he has no obligation to you, and just walked off without another word. Another thing is if you guys were just in the "seeing" stage for that long then you were most likely one of many girls he was seeing. Yeah you got to know what you're getting involved with when you date military men. It's possible to be in a LDR with one, I married mine but both parties have to be 100% committed plus you have to be very patient and understanding of how the military works. Not everyone can be a military wife/girlfriend hence the cheating that goes on when they deploy. With that being said military men/husbands are just as guilty of cheating too. Guys aren't good with feelings and confrontation sounds like he was trying to drop you but just bolted instead. By him not texting you, you being clingy, and he's been navigating the dating web site again tells me it's definitely over.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 This is why I am not a big fan of online dating and especially of long distance relationships. Although they work for some, many people on there are looking for a fantasy more then for Mr or Mrs right. People find someone they are interested in and they build up this whole idea of who the person is and how perfect they are. More often then not, it is the idea of the person not really the person that they are really interested in. Men also enjoy it for the chase and when people finally meet, the reality kills the fantasy and ends the chase. Just take a step back and wait it out..........if he is interested and the nice guy you thought he was he WILL call you eventually. Let him take the lead and don't make him feel like you are the one pursuing him and he doesn't have to do anything but sit back and feel good about getting attention from you.
Relax hun, if he likes you he will call, if he doesn't call then move on and think of it as a learning experience
HUGS
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 September 2010):
 Maybe send him one last e-mail - if he replies good, if not.. Sorry, walk away.
Are you 100% sure he is single?
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reader, mrvhappy +, writes (9 September 2010):
Hi,
( hate to say it...but if you step back and look at what you have written, you know its over
Pity that he's not man enough to give you closure
Time to move on...good luck
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