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writes:He says I Live in cloud cuckoo land because he hides pornography in his car and I say its not right. I don't have a problem with pornography per se, but it has been quite excessive with him in the past. Some time back I noticed the carpet in front of the drivers seat of the car was bulging up where the wheel well was, and when I lifted it up it was full of "well used" magazines. A week or 2 later i looked in the boot of the car and stuffed behind the panel at the back was at least 30 magazines (again "well used"). I was horrified. Like I said, I don't have a problem with porography but the thought of him in some layby (or wherever) turns my stomach. It turns my stomach because I love this man. He says I live in cloud cuckoo land and that he is "no different than any other bloke." Is this true?
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reader, bluByU +, writes (4 May 2007):
bluByU is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi India, Thanks for taking time to respond, I do appreciate it. It doesn't appear to be "that" excessive at this time - and that being the case - is it still ok? The thought of him hiding away somewhere 'out there' just doesn't sit right with me. Surely if this whole scenario was on the up then why would he sneak around and hide this stuff? He is probably the hardest person to talk to about anything like this (he gets very defensive) and in fact it was him that suggested that I ask other people. I'm not sure which of our family or friends I could discuss his masturbatory habits with hence the reason for me being here. Years back I did manage to persuade him to go to relationship counselling for this and "other" reasons but he gave up going to his single appointments after one session. Originally he told me that he didn't like the guy but very much later he said that the counsellor told him to leave me and that was why he never went back. Regardless, if his attitude is such that he sees nothing wrong with this behaviour then I have absolutely no chance of getting him to go to counselling again. Maybe it’s me who needs counselling to learn how to accept this apparently "normal" past time or to bring me back from "cloud-cuckoo-land" to reality? (what ever that is)
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (4 May 2007):
 Whoa, I think he really is a little different from "other blokes". If he is hiding magazines in the floor and in the panels of his car, he has definitely got an adiction. I know that men love porn, but if you man has 30 or MORE magazines, my goodness! That is a LOT of porn.
There is definitely a bigger problem then just the magazines here. He could have an addiction, or maybe he's not communicating his needs to you. One thing is for sure, what you two need is a talk together about this excessive porn habit he's aquired. Maybe a counseler would do some good here? Just to facilitate?
Alright, sweeness. I don't think you live in Cloud Cuckoo Land.
Good luck,
xxIndia
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