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writes:Okay, I have a couple questions. I'm 12 and in 6th grade, and I don't have a boyfriend, and I'm not sure who my real friends are. since I go to a small school, if one person hates me, they spread a rumor, and everyone hates me...That's kind of how its been for a few years. The people who I think are my friends are already going out with people, and I've never even had my first kiss. I feel like I'll never have a boyfriend until high school, and I'll be really far behind then, what should I do? Also, I started masturbating a couple years ago, and I've seen posts on this website of people's mother's finding out and leaving them vibrators and things like that. My mom never gave me "the talk", because she just assumed I already knew, and I almost want her to know, but I DEFINITELY don;t want to tell her. I'm not really sure what to do, especially since I live in a household with a family of 6 people, and I don't have a lock on my door, I don't have much privacy. I want to try with a vibrator, but I couldn't ask, I'm way to embarrassed for that. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Thanks emivia, of course that's what I was trying to say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): If it's any consolation I have never had my first kiss either, and i'm 16!!! You're only 12, and not even a teenager yet... don't feel pressured into getting a boyfriend - It's not important.
At home, Do you have your own room or is it shared? If you've got your own room, then when you go to bed at night you could experiment with different techniques with an unharmful object. I don't want to encourage you with sex toys as you're far too young, and i'm sure your mother would be concerned if you asked her for one. Some people use squirt bottles, deodrant cans, etc. But you've gotta be careful when inserting one of these into yourself because it could cause virgin damage if you're too forceful. Some girls use cotton wool swabs (dipped in vaseline) and use it to stroke their clit (if you know what that is?) It can give satisfying pleasure, not that i've ever tried it - Just heard it from somewhere :)
Gud luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): You're very young to be exploring your body with sex toys that were made for much older women. You may damage your body. If you do get a sex toy then I would suggest one that only stimulates the clitorus, rather than one that will penatrate you.Tell your mother that you want to know about the birds and the bees, tell her that you don;t already know. This will give you the imformation you are seeking about your body, but not about masterbation. If you feel comfortable talking to her about masterbation during the subject then you could bring it up without telling her that you already masterbate.Don't worry about not having a boyfriend yet, there's plenty of time. I didn't have my first kiss till I was a fair bit older than you and I'm fine. Don't worry about getting left behind either, kissing boys is not difficult and one day you'll look back and think "What was I panicing about, it's easy".
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Why are you in such a rush?... Just because everybody else is doing things? Why do you want to use a vibrator and break your virginity? Why do you want to do these things? What kind of strange friends do you have? Do you think it will make people like you more, because it wont you know.
Yes talk to your mother, you don't know what you are doing and have been listening to some very bad advice. The girls who are doing these things, are naughty. In a couple of years time they will be crying and everybody will point at them because they done stuff with loads of boys.......
Do you feel sexy, are you thinking about sex. No! Then you are a nice girl and not ready to throw your life away and catch up with the reputation of the bad girls in your school. Go talk to your mum.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Why are you in such a rush?... Just because everybody else is doing things? Why do you want to use a vibrator and break your virginity? Why do you want to do these things? What kind of strange friends do you have? Do you think it will make people like you more, because it wont you know.
Yes talk to your mother, you don't know what you are doing and have been listening to some very bad advice. The girls who are doing these things, are naughty. In a couple of years time they will be crying and everybody will point at them because they done stuff with loads of boys.......
Do you feel sexy, are you thinking about sex. No! Then you are a nice girl and not ready to throw your life away and catch up with the reputation of the bad girls in your school. Go talk to your mum.....
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reader, Lily Moll +, writes (21 May 2008):
You could talk to your mom, but without letting her know the whole truth. I'm not sure what you're asking or what you hope to get out of this. You can easily buy a back massager, which works well as a vibrator. I don't recommend letting your mom catch you, as that could easily backfire, or at the very least, be very embarrassing and damaging emotionally, without reaping any rewards. The best thing you could do is talk to your mom, and ask her about vibrators, and see what she says.
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