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writes: i have emotional needs that are not being met by my b/f. i have tried to talk to him about it but he just seems to shrug it off. it seems that the only time he wants to spend with me is when he wants sex. That is a big turn off for me and i guess i just lost my sexual connection with him because the sex is not enjoyable for me at all lately. i do not feel an ounce of sexual desire or pleasure when i am with him and this is really frustrating for me. i have resorted to watching tv to kill my boredom while he performs and he still doesnt get it or maybe he just dont care .i know its not me because i get turned on and masterbate so i dont know what to do to make this right again and get our once great sex life back on track
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (12 January 2006):
 Your sex life will improve if and when you properly address the other problems in your relationship.
You need to tell your boyfriend how you feel. Whether he likes it or not, he needs to hear it. Mention the unmet emotional needs that he shrugs off, the fact that he spends time with you only when he wants sex, etc. Tell him that his selfishness is causing you to lose interest in having sex with him. If he cares about you, then he's going to have to put WAY more effort into the relationship. It isn't a good sign that you don't feel any sexual desire or pleasure whatsoever when you are with him. It's almost like you're allowing him to use your body for HIS pleasure without any regard for your own needs, because you just lay back passively and watch TV or let your mind drift during sex! You need to take a stand and stop putting your needs last. Tell him that if he isn't going to pay any attention to your emotional needs, and if he's going to place all of the emphasis on sex, then the closest thing to a girlfriend that he's going to have is his HAND! Seriously. Don't put up with that crap. You deserve so much better.
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