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writes: i have a good friend that i slept with before me and my b/f ever got together. i wanted to be honest with him so i told him. he said he doesnt want me talking to him anymore even though he lives 900 miles away.my b/f still talks to girls hes slept with that live in the same town as we do but i dont think its right for me to say who he can talk to if i dont have a good reason to suspect something is going on. should i cut contacts with my good friend to make him happy even though me and my friend are both in relationships now and have very different lives then we had when we were younger and dont desire to have a relationship together
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (12 January 2006):
 No! Why should you have to cut off contact with your good friend/former lover, when your boyfriend is still in contact with his former partners? He's acting jealous, paranoid, and untrusting toward you, but he expects you to be okay with him doing the very thing that he doesn't want you doing!
Don't allow him to tell you who you can and can't be friends with. It isn't fair because you don't treat him like that. Remind him that relationships are two-sided, and that you are entitled to stay in touch with your friend, in the same manner that he feels entitled to keep in touch with his former lovers.
You both need to have friends outside of this relationship. Whether they are siblings, coworkers, classmates, or ex-lovers is irrelevant. But you must trust each other to remain faithful, or else this relationship isn't going to work. He must trust you as much as you trust him. If he doesn't, then he's always going to be telling you what to do, and you don't need that in your life. You have a right to be your own person and to make your own decisions.
Best of luck.
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