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writes:SO I wanted to do something different... well let me first start off by saying the story: Guy in my class, we are friends, he's a bit shy in that he doesn't initiate things, but i always catch him constantly looking over at me (my friends notice it too), avoids me (like not sitting near me)... that's the story in a nutshell... I've written here before and everyone says, yes it seems like he is interested! Yes, you should just go for it...! So what I am "doing differently" is believing the advice given here, believing my friends advice given out in the 'real world'.. and just believing that he is shy guy WHO IS interested in me (may it be as small as just interested in getting to know me or as big as interested in wanting to date me). The reason I say this is because if I were to look at my situation from an outside point of view, I would tell the girl it seems like 'someone has their eye on you.'The thing is (and the reason I'm writing here) I don't know if its lack of confidence, or fear of rejection, but I don't believe in myself. And not even with this particular guy.. any guy in my past (even guys I was seeing or dating!) I always questioned whether they liked me or not. I wondered why are they with me if that girl over there is prettier? Or that girl over there is funnier? I hate this feeling because I feel like I'm not worth any guys time. I don't feel like this with my guy friends. Why don't I feel that I am 'good enough' for guys I like? And how do I stop feeling like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): low self esteem, low confidence, bad self image. that's all you're suffering honey, and so does a majority of people; guys and girls.
there's nothing anybody can say or do to you to give it to you, it all comes from within as cliche as it sounds, it's true.
guy is looking over cause he IS interested, but by your description I can safely assume he's suffering the same issues you are, read above.
he won't approach you, neither will you. sad situation but somebody has to step up. If not, oh well - just wonder what could've been. It's all an ego trip.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (4 May 2010):
 The only way for you to stop feeling this is to do some things that will build your confidence. If you like jumping in the deep end, go ask that guy out. When he says yes, that ought to be a big confidence booster.
The best thing you can do in life is not worry about what other people think. The more you're concerned with this or that from the public, the less time you have to be yourself and let that person shine for who they are.
Find an outfit you really like and feel you look good in, and go talk to him!
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