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writes:I still feel a bit awkward about the idea of letting my boyfriend see me without a stitch on during the daytime, or with the lights on after dark. I'm pretty comfortable about most of my body being unclothed but when it comes to the parts hidden by a bikini...He thinks it's a bit daft of me since I've been topless with him at night, and he even went down on me once (but I kept my knickers on, sort of). As he says, he can see me just as well in the gloom! I'm rather embarrassed about my breasts though, they're small and kinda deflated and speckled with little moles. And as for down there, I can't wax because my skin's more sensitive than most but I do keep everything trimmed. I tell myself he never would've wanted to get as intimate as we already have done (as far as third base) if he'd minded these things, yet I can't shake the worry of not being good enough somehow. Am I being silly? How do I get over this final hang-up? Thank you so much in advance for any advice :)
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (18 July 2011):
 This is so common. My gf was the same way in the beginning. Over time you will realize that he loves your body and that you have nothing to be insecure about. Take slow steps to reveil yourself to him. Try a little more light every once and a while and slowly you will become more comfortable with it. He'll understand and be happy to be seeing more of you.
If youu are worried about the hair you could try shaving although it may also irritate your skin. Not every guy wants a shaved girl although it may seem that way.
Plan some special way for you bf to see more of you so you are in control of the situation. For example the first time I ever saw my gf topless was when we got into the shower together and she let a white t-shirt become see through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2011): In the kindest way...you're being very silly! You're comfortable about your body, which is more than a lot of people can say. I think the first time someone sees you naked is always daunting. If you dont feel comfy enough in full light, why not start by candle light, or a lamp. You'll become more comfortable as time goes on.
Secondly... you don't NEED to wax. Your boyfriend will not expect anything of you, and it's natural to have hair. Again, as long as your comfortable, then it's all good. And your boobs? you know what they say... any more than a handful is a waste :P
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (18 July 2011):
 I think all women feel this way! Everyone has these little things that we find as being ugly but to everyone else they dont see any problems! You obviously take care of yourself and you even said you have been topless already so he has seen that. and then your bottom half, you have allowed him there already and he has probably im guessing felt what it is like. I suggest at night when you are topless and it is dark. (it seems you have a problem with it yourself rather than him seeing anything) and allow him to take off your knickers by putting your hands on his and directing him - then you are in control of what you are comfortable with. Then hopefully after you direct him, you will feel more comfortable with yourself. The more times you do this, then the more comfortable you will feel.I really hope this helped you, as i know many women have this insecurity.
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reader, MugenTj  +, writes (18 July 2011):
 Frankly, it comes down to accepting what you naturally born with. The more you are comfortable with yourself the more he won't notice your imperfections (which can be relative).
As far as keeping the light on, I'd say it's ok to be a bit shy, leave something to the imagination. But you should be as confident as possible when you have to be naked in day light with him.
Love yourself and be flexible.
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