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writes:I have been dating a guy of 37 for two years. We are very different in that I'm outgoing and sociable whereas he is shy and an introvert. For that reason I tend to socialize with family and friends alone. I find that lately I am getting bored in his company as he doesn't like water, cities, travel or the heat. We have walking in the countryside in common but that's it really. However he is kind attentive and loyal which means a lot to me. Our main problem is our lack of sex. He doesn't have much experience and it feels clumsy and awkward in the bedroom. I've tried to gently lead and encouraged him to help things along but that doesn't seem to help. It's got to the point where I don't want sex with him anymore.I'm 38 and my son has grown up. I'm scared to start again he's the first decent man I have met in years but if I'm honest I'm bored.Please help. Has anyone else felt like this. We don't live together and only meet at wk ends due to distance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2011): "I'm scared to start again he's the first decent man I have met in years but if I'm honest I'm bored."
So, you are scared.
He's not adventuresome.
He's a decent man, the first you've met in years.
Those three things are linked, and you have a lot of work to overcome them.
You need to be less scared, he needs to be more adventuresome, and you both need to be decent and open with each other about your fears, on both sides.
I'm sure he's got some fears, and might like to be more adventuresome, but he's probably worried about what you might think about how he thinks about you.
LDR's are hard because of this, but you need more time together to figure each other out.
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 He really doesn't seem like the guy for you. Break it off (nicely) and go out on some casual dates without getting serious. Slowly work yourself up to actually having a relationship, if that's what you desire.
If youre bored and unsatisfied in your current relationship, then get out of it. If you're not ready to find someone else, take a break before doing so. Rediscover yourself and your own passions and then look for someone new.
Don't be afraid. Trying to start love from the beginning is daunting but not impossible. Once you're happy in yourself, your light will shine through to the kind of man with the same passions as you have.
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reader, cry +, writes (26 February 2011):
 buy a porn and really come out with it say exactley what u want be honist and upfront .talk dirty.buy some red or black laundier...goood luck
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