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writes: I have a boyfriend and I think I love him.He says he loves me too.But I don't know if he is cheating on me because he hardly ever calls me and he is always getting text messages and calls on his cell phone from other girls.And he always talks about hangin out with them.But when I ask him about it he says that he isnt cheating.I know he wont tell me that he is so how do I know if he is or not?Please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): well first u should look into his eyes and ask him if he loves you then u sholud start talking about other guys how u hate when they cheat on girls u should tell him that guys who cheat on giel are loosers and see what he says that helped me i went throw the same thing so i know how u fell if u wanna talk about it call me i live in canada burnaby my phone number is 604 516 8249 okay and i will help u bye by the way my name is jelena maricic
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (25 July 2006):
 Well kierra you have to think is
do you want to carry on a relationship with this guy?
do you think you can learn to trust him again?
do you think you love is strong enough to withstand this betrayel?
do you think he won't do it do again?
do you think you can forgive and forget?
If you answer no to this questions do you really see apoint on carry this relationship on for any longer. You have to look deep within yourself, into you heart and see if you really think this is the right man for you.
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reader, Kierra48 +, writes (20 July 2006):
Kierra48 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for all your help!We have been dating for 13 months.But the fact is i cant trust him because he really has cheated on me.So what should I do now?
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reader, cherub +, writes (20 July 2006):
 Hello, from what you have written it showed the turmoil you are going through and I am sure a sick feeling in the stomach as well and not too mention questioning about whether he is cheating or not even before you go to bed.It is not easy for you.
My belief system is action speaks louder than words.Saying I love you becomes easy when it is said often but true love is backed up by actions like for example taking your feelings about the other girls into account and also to call you often.I love my girlfriend and I sends her email daily,rings her daily,leaves messages for her daily to showhow much I care.
May I ask how long have you been together?If it is within 6-12 months the feeling should be quite intense and if he is how you portray him then you seriously need to evaluate your relationship.The reason being as the relationship progresses,generally more effort is needed to sustain it as there will be things you don't like about him and vice versa which will be voiced and resolve needed.
Maybe you could find a time when you could share with him your thoughts,uncertainties,wishes,love and how it can make you feel better again.All these type of issues can only be resolved through dialogue and as he said he loves you then he will understands.
If you constantly thinks he may be cheating and he won't tell and the only way is catching him out red handed then it will only eats away your self-confidence and self-esteem so talk to him again.If he doesn't values your feelings then he doesn't deserve you.Alternatively,you could trust him more,also offer to join in with his hanging out.
Good luck.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (20 July 2006):
So your boyfriend is popular with girls doesn't make him a cheat, it's not like he's walking away from you to take the calls. It's all about trust, do you think you can trust him? If it's really bothering you talk to him about it.
But if your one of thos jealous types then you best work on that before it gets out of control.
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