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writes: My Boyfriend has a face phone and sometimes his phone accidentally calls people. Last night his phone called me, my voice mail captured up him talking and laughing with some girl. When i asked him what he did that night he said he was with his mother. When i told i heard him on my voice mail with some girl that was not his mother he then confessed and said that he was just having a few drinks with a fried. what should i do? i feel that he is lying even though he says he faithful and loves me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2006): faith·ful ( P ) Pronunciation Key (fthfl)
adj.
Adhering firmly and devotedly, as to a person, cause, or idea; loyal.
Having or full of faith.
Worthy of trust or belief; reliable.
Consistent with truth or actuality: a faithful reproduction of the portrait.
Your boyfriend is not faithful. If he loved you as you love him, he would not have deceived you like this.
Ask him who the girl is and if he is suspicious in any way then that makes lie number #2. One lie, perhaps excusable. But two?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2006): He is cheating on you, and I feel you cannot trust him as he is seeing another girl - I think all along you must know this, and I suggest you dump him.
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reader, One Of The Ancients +, writes (20 July 2006):
You feel as if he's lying because he ~was~ lying.
This is your wake-up call. Your BF wouldn't have 'fessed up except that you caught him in the act, and it got recorded.
Are you sure that you want to continue a relationship with someone who'd lie to you, bald-faced, about drinking with another woman (friend or not)?
Maybe he thought it was just a little thing, having a drink with a female friend, and maybe it was. But if it was innocent and harmless, why was he hiding it from you, and why didn't he mention it up front, so that you didn't hear it from someone else? Even just him saying "Hey, you know Chenille from Accounting? We went out after work to celebrate her promotion. I didn't want you to worry about me, so I wanted to tell you myself."
I think he's blown his level of trust with you to bits. He's overdue for a talk about honesty between couples.
Give him another chance, but be sure that you have a clear idea what your response is going to be if you catch him in another lie, and tell him what the future holds if something like this happens again.
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