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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years, and living together for 3 of them. We have had many ups and downs. He has finished college and we have been talking about moving so that I may finish as well, we were talking about moving in October, I decided to go back to school but start with online classes, so that we may spend more time where we are, and so that he can get more out of his internship/ job, which under pays him and keeps him for long hours, anyway I have been sacrificing to be with him. He says he loves me, but that he feels like he can not move because he has so much opportunity where he is at. For the last six months we have been planning to move, now that its crunch time he is telling me he doesn't want to go. I do not want to leave without him, long distance relationships never work. Does anyone have any advice for me?
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (22 October 2009):
 I'm in a long distance relationship and its working just fine - sure, its harder and you have to have a strong sense of independant ability, but in the long run i think its just making my relationship stronger, and it'll be so much sweeter when we can finally just be together. I wouldn't discard the idea of at least trying long distance - that way neither of you will have to give up on the opportunities you have.
However if you are really against the idea of long distance, then you have to really consider what your priorities at this stage of your life are - your education, which would potentially set up a future career, or investing in your boyfriend and potentially setting up a future home? Nobody here can help you with that decision, its something you'll have to contemplate yourself.
Good luck :) xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 October 2009):
I'm afraid this is a case of you have to follow your heart, he has to follow his. LDR's can work, but they need a huge amount of input. At this stage in your life, you need to follow the path that sets your future up. I don't think he's your future.
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