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30-35,
*abygurl4life
writes:hey im a virgin and im 15 and my boyfriend is 17 he's not a virgin. I really love him alot and i want to have sex with him but i'm scared but that's besides the point. I don't want him to go to jail. What should I do? Help please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): SEX does NOT equal LOVE. If this boy really loved u, he would marry u, instead of using u for sex. And your fear is part of the point. I am a teen and I fear getting pregnant, catching an STD, being scarred for life because of sex with a boy. That is why I am a virgin. Save yourself for marriage, where true love, true commitment (not just empty words), true support, and LESS risks can be found.
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reader, Namatjira  +, writes (9 March 2008):
You will have to wait until you are over the age of consent. If he got convicted of sex with a minor he would most likely go on the sex offenders register, be unable to get many jobs, have to report his location to the police and many other things for the rest of his life. If you love him you will be patient.
You should know that the law does not care if you were consenting or not and it will deal with him very harshly. I cannot stress enough the importance of waiting as the consequences to him will be very very bad.
Take up some sporting activity that will leave you physically exhausted. It will help you to be patient and will result in you being physically tired when you go to bed so you do not think a lot about things before you go to sleep. I guess you are finding the quiet time just before you sleep to be when you think a lot about this. Also try not to be alone in your room (or his) with him. When you do thinks together go to places where there are lots of people. Do not drink much at all (at your age you shouldn't be drinking anyway). You have o be clever about this and think of safer places to be with him where you will not be tempted to have sex. You really must do this to help you both. Not only would it be a disaster for him but think how you would feel afterwards, knowing that you had ruined his life and future just because you really wanted sex with him and could not wait.
He should also be strong, but as he is only 17 it might be difficult for him if you are setting out to seduce him. With both of you the passion of the moment can make you forget consequences until it is too late. That is why you must be defensive about this and try to avoid places where you could have sex.
All the best. Be patient it will not be much longer till your age will not matter as much. If you do give in, for heavens sake use a condom, but I hope you are strong enough.
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