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writes:Sorry, this might be a little long but I need help!So there's this guy that does marching band with me and has made it quite clear he's interested in me. The other night on the way home from a competition I sat next to him. The section that we were in decided to play truth or dare, then things got awkward. They dared us to kiss, which we did. I did not enjoy it, but he did since he likes me. He started cuddling with me and talking to me about stuff. He told me how much he liked me and why (which is a lot) and a ton of other personal stuff. Eventually we were dared to kiss again which we did and I dreaded. He kept hinting on how much he wanted to go out with me and stuff. I feel really bad, and those whole reason I played along was out of guilt. I feel awkward around him and I absolutely do not like him like that. I just don't what to do since he's practically in love with me and all he does is make me uncomfortable. I know what its like to be in his position and it really sucks. I a really nice person and I could never imagine hurting his feelings. What should I do? If I agree to go out with him it would be awkward and give him the wrong idea....And if I say no it would break his heart and he's made that clear. Please give me some advice, I'm really confused:/ Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (19 September 2010):
 If you date him without any sort of love in your heart it will end up tearing him up inside. At this point, heartbreak is not something he can avoid. He just has to learn to deal with it. It is not your burden to bear, your heart simply isn't in it.
Tell him that you do not feel that way about him and let him deal with it. You are a good person so tell him and try your best not to hurt him too badly whilst getting your point across to him. I have been in his position before, I hated the girl but it wasn't her fault, I just couldn't stop feeling that way about her but I got over it and now we're more friendly towards each other. He will definitely get hurt either way but time heals all.
I hope that helps.
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