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writes:On the inside I’m the crazy girl with tattoos piercings and emo hair, on the out said I’m plain Jane and I do it all for my boy friend because he says its gross when girls look like that. We been together for 4 years and when we met I still lived with my mom who was really strict about how I look so I only emo had hair (she still gave me shit about it). I didn’t really dress up emo just the tight pant because I just like how my hair looked like that. When I turn 18 I got my nosed pierced and we have already have been dating for awhile, and he freaked out! He was away at college when I did it so he was upset that I didn’t ask him. I finally took I it out after a few months just so he would stop complaining and saying mean comments about it. Then he asked me to grow my hair out and I did it, don’t ask me why I did I just did.Then I moved out of my house and closer his school in another state so we could kind of start our life’s together ,he doesn’t live with me ,he lives full time in his dorm cause his an RA, but he does still spend a lot of time at my house or me at his dorm. I was raised that you don’t have sex until ur married, and I told him when we first started dating and he agreed to that, but after a year we had sex anyways cause he wanted too, he said it stop a lot of our fighting about it…… it made it worst, its almost killed me I felt horrible afterwards, every time we had sex after that I couldn’t really in joy it cause I felt we were doing something wrong it took me over a year to finally come to terms with what I did, and I cant change the past and just in joy it. Thoughts are just some of the big things I’ve done for him, So pretty much I’ve done and do so much for him ,I’ve even change m self (don’t ask me y I couldn’t tell y) and all I ask for is a little appreciation and not taking me for granted(which he does every day) and I’m sick of itLately he said taking our future together and getting married some day and starting a family, and I know he’s going to ask me soon! And I don’t know what to say I don’t know if I can be with some who doesn’t appreciate me don’t get me wrong I love a lot! But I don’t know if we have a future cause of our pastWhat should I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): This boy sounds like a douche bag! My friends and I think that you are way better then that and you deserve to be able to express yourself!
Just the fact that you wrote on this blog means that you understand how wrong this is and you're halfway there in getting over him.
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (12 November 2010):
This guy sounds like a total jerk and you need to end it. You obviously aren't happy with how things are so why would you want to marry him if you know things are going to just be the same or get worse? He shouldn't make you be someone you're not, if he doesn't like who you really are then he needs to find someone who fits his needs. Don't change yourself for a guy or anyone else for that matter, be who you want to be. If it were me, I would've ended it way sooner. You need to end it before it gets worse. Be yourself and don't let anyone try to change you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): this guy is controlling. break up with him bfore it gets a worse and then do what u want dont let others tell u what to do and dont change urself 4 other pple.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (12 November 2010):
 If I can offer some advice, its be true to yourself. Be who you want to be, who makes you happy. Why are you pretending to be what you are not? You aren't happy..and you're not going to be happy. The longer this charade goes on, the more unhappy you will be. Be who you are darling...do not let your boyfriend bully you or talk you into doing or being or looking like anything but who you are. I wouldn't marry this guy either..you'll be miserable. When a person really loves you, they love you for who you are..not what they want you to be. they accept you, just as you are, they don't try to change you.
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