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writes:I'm 22 years old, male, living in Canada and I can honestly say I dislike most people. I'm not necessarily one of those anti-social, "I hate the human race"-types, but most people I know/meet that are around my age, I can't stand that much. To me, everyone seems so out of touch with reality and very few people have any common sense anymore (which really shouldn't be called "common" these days). It's like most people 18 - 25 just stepped out of a hip hop video, going on about everything great they did/do/got - and quite frankly, I don't care. My family has always been down-to-earth and I was raised with a somewhat pessimistic view of the world. I do enjoy the company of some individuals who come from similar backgrounds (i.e. lower-middle class/broke folks, people who have struggled at some-point in their lives etc.). But most others, I dislike - even after getting to know them. Do you think there is something wrong with my behavior or is this just my personality? Reply to this Question
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 Yes, a lot of stupid, immature common sense lacking individuals live on this planet and it seems as though perhaps you're more into things that mean something.
Most people these days put value on what they have materialistically instead of what they have morally or their values. You might want to expand your horizons on the who you hang out with front. Most of the people around here have everything handed to them on a silver platter from mommy and daddy and expect everyone to worship the ground they walk on.
I don't think you have a personality disorder or whatever, most people our age are immature and stupid and are out of touch with reality.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (14 January 2011):
 Welcome to your early 20's. Most people DON'T have common sense and just about everyone needs to mature in some manner (including both me and you). Just find a small group of friends that are immature in ways compatible with yours and live and let live. You cannot control others, only how you react to them. (Ignoring the majority of humanity is a valid, and probably wise, choice.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): yea i know what you mean. Most people our age are idiots. I think we basically just have to keep carrying on until we find other down to earth people or wait for the ones to eventually grow up which may never happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): A cynic is only a dissappointed idealist. In your case it may also be a class issue. Have you "done well for yourself" and end up meeting a lot of people who grew up with more? Do you resent what you've become? It could also be a cultural thing, it sounds like you think most of your peers are materialistic and self absorbed. It sounds like you weren't raised that way.It could also be that you are just generally not an optimistic person. Perhaps you are a cynic because you don't like your job? If that's the case, that attitude toward your job likely colors the way you deal with other people. Maybe it's time to find a new job or pursue something you have a genuine interest in?I have a friend that holds similar views, and he also tends to discount anyone he perceives as having had more money than himself...In a way he is just as much of a snob as the people he despises. If you want to meet people who interest you and get involved in activities that mean something to you...be proactive and be patient. Everybody is interesting if you get to know them a little better. If you just bitch about moan about "those" people, you end up.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): Hey pal!
It sounds like you just dont blend in with your age group for who you are and who you are is not to be judged by anyone. Its just important for you to find perhaps some older folk to mesh with and gain knowledge from. Ive always hung around older people, esp women, because most people in my age group Ill just say I grew apart from a lot of their mentalities...AND when they make fun of you for hanging with older people, that just proves one point: They are possibly immature. Head up. Hit up that bookstore and find some of ur own life lol. Good luck man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): It sounds a little like your own insecurities are standing between you and allowing people the benefit of the doubt.
But hey, i dont really 'like' that many people, it takes me a long time to trust people and i'm generally quite independant. Strangely enough i love meeting new people and socialising, it's my lack of trust of others that results in me keeping them at arms length. I know why that is, and it's kept me safe in the past but i'm happy with it. If you aren't happy with it then perhaps it's time to approach change, try and give people a chance and try to see things through their eyes - it might help you have a little bit more appreciation for them.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 Well I'd say youve not met enough of a wide variety of people, you may need to go further afield. There is a lot of people out there waiting to be discovered who you could have lots in common with. Usually in a place of work a couple of individuals with similar interests will stand out. Maybe it's because you arent very happy with your life at the moment. Sometimes when we get good news, or good luck, a windfall, a new job etc it makes us shine from within and we can be friends with the whole world when this happens. But i do know where you are coming from because there can be others out there who don't live in the real world and only think about themselves. you need to sort out the wood from the trees for your own personal gains.
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