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*razy-Candice
writes:met this amazing guy thought everything was going really well, we had sex it was pretty good then I started to fall ''in love'' with him even though I dont even believe in love properlythen all of a sudden i find out he had a girlfriend all alongi tried to confront him but he just ignored me about ithes acting as though nothings happened!I decided to play him at his own game so now I'm seeing some other guy and making it obvious but he doesnt seem to even carething is though I still really like him, cant seem to get him off my mind no matter what i dofeel so messed upfeel like we would have made a great couple but thers no chance of that nowfeel like everytime i like someone they screw me over and leave me hurt and brokenI dont know whether to bring it up again or leave it like it isknow it sounds ridiculous but shes not even good enough for him.i dont know what to do now feel like I'm stuck in a rut
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reader, Crazy-Candice +, writes (23 April 2008):
Crazy-Candice is verified as being by the original poster of the question I wasnt being unfair by getting with someone else, the guy liked me I liked him and I think Its better to move on than to get caught up obsessing over one person!!
He knew i had been seeing someone anyway and he knew it was over.
anyway me and the guy are just friends now, and I've realised that its possible to like two people at once, but I aint prepared to be the bit on the side,
and i think he just didnt have the guts to tell me he had a gf because he knew then I'd just wanna be friends, etc etc
silly thing for me to be worrying about I'm really back on track now folks, feelings are so temporary,
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 This entire thing is very immature. He cheats then ignores you and won't explain why... You use some guy to make him jealous... Sounds very middle school to me. And question- how is she not good enough for an immature, lying, cheater? I don't know if I believe anyone wouldn't be good enough for him. Not sure why you still care about him, but first things first, leave this poor guy you are using right now. There is no need to hurt someone else. And did you learn nothing from being treated like crap from the cheating ex? Also, if he is ignoring you AND has another gf, how much do you think you are really affecting him by "making him jealous"? Now, move on. Grow up in the process. Maybe gain some maturity then try later for a serious relationship. You do not need a cheater especially not one who acts like a 14 year old and ignores your questions... I suggest being alone for a little while. Good luck with everything.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Hi,
sorry but you don't sound like you are ready for a committment anyway. You have a very immature attitude to relationships so why not stop stressing and enjoy your youth like most others your age.
Playing these silly little games - and that's just what they are - benefits no one. This guy doesn't really care about you and if you really cared about him you wouldnt be doing what you are as well.
So forget it, enjoy yourself, meet new people, have a blast with your friends , and worry about the stresses of a committed relationship when you are mature enough to deal with it.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 So, a guy plays with your emotions, so in revenge you play with another guys emotion.
You two deserve each other. You both don't seem to care about the feelings of others.
Dump the first boyfriend then apologize to the second one for using him and move on with your life.
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Aww bless you. He sounds a nasty cheat once a cheat always a cheat what makes you think if he was with you he would stay faithfull i dont hun men like that just cant keep it in there pants.
He's acting like nothing happend because he doesnt want his gf to find out sorry but to me it sounded like he wanted you for a bit of fun behind his gf back stay away and move on your worth more than that.
Good luckx
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reader, MissKin +, writes (14 April 2008):
 She's not even good enough for him? What? so you think she deserves smething LESS than the scheming, cheating little idiot she's with now?
I'm sorry, but you saying that sounds ridiculous alright - ridiculously harsh and uncalled for. Why are you taking it out on her? HE's the one screwing around with your body and your heart, and you're letting him.
Why do you even want to be with a guy who treats girls in this way? Why do you think you don't deserve to be with someone who isn't a cheater? The biggest mistake people seem to make is thinking that when they get with someone who cheated on an ex with them, that they're not going to then go on and cheat on them. Once a cheater, always a cheater. That's the way i see it in circumstances like this.
He obviously isn't interested in you on an emotional level. If he's still with his girlfriend - that's where he's chosen to be.
Not to mention YOU are using some guy to play a game with someone else! Think of what you're doing to this guy. It's cruel and unfair. Just because you were messed around does not mean you can use somebody else. You obviously don't deserve to be with a decent guy if this is the way you're treating them. If you're 'using' another guy to make him jealous and he 'doesn't seem to care' the likelihood is that he probably really doesn't care.
I think you should move on. Find someone who is going to treat you right and not cheat on anyone.
I'm sorry if this reply seems a bit harsh, but i think you need to wake up a bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): You think you're hurt and broken? When this guy your using finds out what you're doing, HE'LL be the hurt and broken one. Why are you being so selfish? Please end it with your little toyboy, you're being so unfair.
It's always hard to get over your ex, but you've just got to try and not live on it. Times change, and if this is how he treats you, you're better off without him. Once a cheater, always a cheater. And he cheated. So honey, forget about him. How could you ever be with him and fully trust him again? You couldn't, surely. He doesn't love you and clearly doesn't value you enough to treat you right, so go out there and find someone who likes you just as much as you like him.
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