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writes:Hello - I am not sure if i just need to sound off, or need some feedback...I think feedback to be honest.I recently met a man who is 43. I liked him alot and fancied him alot. I am mid 40, divorced and (about a year ago) out of a LTR.This man and I spent around 2 -3 nights aweek together. Even though I am mid 40's I still feel a sexy woman and enjoy sex...but all he wanted to do was cuddle and go to sleep.....even after me giving him a full body massage.Last night afer a nice evening in, I tried that again (the massage), I tried to get him to kiss me by kissing him....he turned away and said he wanted to sleep.I felt rejected again,(as I had the week previous) and I had a little weep lying next to him. He wouldn't talk to me when I asked what was wrong.When he knew i was upset, he got out of bed got dressed and let himself out to go back to his home.I know it's the end for us, because I can't put myself through this anymore (the rejection) but I am scared now, it is me and the next man could be the same.My LTR of 6 years ended because he found someone young and new..I never turned my new man on, and that bothers me alot....
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 Hi,
as a guy let me tell your first. It has nothing to do with you not turning him on: nothing - that's crazy talk and you need to get it out of your head.
Now, it's a case of how much you like him as to how much effort you can put in to find out what the real problem is here. So you need to get all the negative stuff about you out of your head so you can concentrate on what's bothering him. You are old enough to not have to beat around the bush, if you have another close moment simply tell him you are a sexual person and you think that you guys should have sex and does he have a problem with this.
If he does and won't give you an honest answer then you owe it to yourself to find someone who will be honest with you. Honestly you simply don't need to pick up a whole bunch of new problems are leaving a LTR. Life is too short, you are in your sexual prime you should be enjoying it not worrying whether you are turning someone on or not.
As for your LTR , forget that creep, us guys prefer a mature woman over a young one anyway, mature girls are much more experienced, are great in bed ( as opposed to girls who often have no clue what they are doing )and great conversationists. A young girl is an ego booster nothing more - thank your lucky stars he left when he did.
Good luck.
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reader, pyan +, writes (24 February 2008):
Hi
Like one of the others said he may have an issue getting hard and is embarraced. most men go through that at some stage of their life. meeting a new women could bring that on.
have you given him a massage. i expect when he gave you the massage he had cloth on?
message if you would like to know more on what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): please check out npsupport.net ... this sounds too much like the experience I had with current boyfriend. If you think this fits your situation, run for the hills, this man is not worth the heartache he will put you through! Take care of you.
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reader, Devilish Angel  +, writes (24 February 2008):
 It might be that he has ER... Have you thought of that? Maybe he's ashamed of not being able to function and doesn't want to risk being embarrassed? Just ask him what the reason is...
Reassure him that you aren't going to judge him harshly and that there are things you guys can do to get him up. OR he could have an STD and isn't ready to tell you about it yet or it might be that its a curably STD that he's in the process of curing.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (24 February 2008):
 Hi
There could be many reasons this guy wasnt interested sexually. Maybe he has a medical problem?
Maybe the chemistry just wasnt there. I dated a real traditionally good looking man, no one would of called him ugly, he got eyed up all the time. but the chemistry wasnt there, i never got the urge to pounce on him! And ive had it beofre with guys, so i knew it wasnt anything wrong with me. Just the chemistry wasnt there with him. Hes had plenty of chemistry with other women though, so its not him either.
I was happy to spend time with him, and did like his company. All i can say is, the sexual chemistry wasnt there.
You shouldnt beat yourself up about it.
C xxxxx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 February 2008):
 I am sorry about your predicaments. It is not your fault that life is unkind to you. Keep on looking and you will find the right guy. Maybe , it is third time lucky.
Do not be too harsh on yourself. Think positive always.
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