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writes:I was married but already made up my mind I was going to leave him and move in with my best friend; witch is a Guy who lives in Texas, I'm in Kentucky. While I was saving up money to go out there I hooked up with a guy thinking it would just be sex, but I ended up falling for him and moving in with him. Once I told my friend what was going on he told me that the reason he wanted me to come out there was that he was in love with me and wanted to marry me. I never new his fillings where that deep for me but I had always had fillings for him. So do I stay with the new man or go be with my best friend? Both are wonderful men and I don't want to hurt anyone I just don't know what to do.
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reader, Martins  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Please for God sake, dont go,stay with your best friend.. Remember he/she who started a race is not to be praise but the one who finished the race. To win a prize you have to pay a price. Let me ask you question have ever have sex with this guy,becuase if you done that,that mean you are not a woman who love the guy all you want is sex,maybe he gave it to you in a hard way that sweet your varginal that your best friend has never done. Please be care before you conclude. Thank love.
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reader, xXJDXx  +, writes (20 August 2010):
Hey,
I'm going to be quite blunt on this one..
You may have feelings for BOTH these men as their 'nice guys' but clearly your NOT in love with either of them, otherwise you'd kno the answer to this question.
You shouldn't settle for just the 'nice guy' in any case, you'll never be truely happy because your not in love with them, there are so many guys out there, one of whome will one day make you a very happy woman. So my advice is neither.
Sorry it's not the answer you were looking for, but it's the answer needed to open your eyes up to the situation.
Take care and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): Ok, so you dumped your husband for your bf, then dumped your bf for some other guy you met..... you dont know what you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): Hmm very hard to say. I don't feel you gave enough information. I am not asking for more just saying that this is a big life decision so there is many things to be taken into account. I don't know the reason as to why your marriage ended but it could be for a number of reasons. I don't know the time span or even how long each event took so I don't know if you are impulsive. My first instinct is to say to go with the best friend. Your partner for life has got to be your very best friend. If you already see him as a best friend and you have feelings for him then it's safe to say that I can very well see that relationship working out. Sex is very powerful and can deepen feelings so the new guy may only be an infatuation. Be careful when making the decision. Taking your time can save you from a lot of heartbreak. It will be impossible to not hurt anyone so you shouldn't worry about that too much. In the end, you have to ask yourself, "Who do I see myself with 5 years from now? 10? 20?" The guy you think of more fondly is probably your best bet. Your mind should lean on one guy while part of you makes a lot of excuses for the other. Your mind is most likely correct. Who do YOU want? You shouldn't be looking for a way to make everyone happy. Look for what will make you truly happy. Hope I helped. Good luck~FGC
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