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writes:I met my boyfriend a little over a year ago, and everything was great at first. I got scared when I started to fall in love with him and began pushing him away. This went on for about nine months and the whole time I was completely oblivious to the damage I was doing to him and our relationship. Then he decided that he didn't want to be with me anymore because he had been hurt so badly by my actions. Needless to say he gave me another chance and we are still together, but I fear the damage I've done may be past repair for him. I've been trying my best to make the changes that needed to be made but I still seem to just cause him frustration, even when I'm trying not to. What scares me the most is it feels like the tables are turned and now he doesn't say and do the things he used to. I am head over heels for this man and I don't want to loose him but I don't know what to do anymore. I love him too much to stick around if he isn't happy but he has told me that he is and that he wants the relationship to work also, I just don't get that feeling from him though anymore that he does. Please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, younggirlconfused  +, writes (6 September 2010):
i've been in this possition! U need to make sure he understands whats going on with you n that no matter what ur willing to fight for him now! Its a security thing! Sit down with him say what u've got to say n if he's not ready to talk immediately leave it a few days! Bring it up in three days time! Get his oppinion n go from there! Relationships have endured far worse things! If u both believe that the feelings u have for each other r in fact the real thing then all relationships take work! Work at keeping ur man but dont do all the work he has to pull his weight n make u feel like there's noone else that he'd rather, u still have to feel special too! Guys do realise that girls are sometime crazy! But we should always make up for our crazy bits!
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reader, FLIPPER66 +, writes (6 September 2010):
 the biggest thing is communication in any relationship. that means alot of talking . now i'm going to let you in on a little secret . i'm what many would call the proverbial nice sweet guy from the prehistoric days of the 1960's lol. so gives me alittle senority at times on sites like these.
guys haven't changed much and neither have the girls lol.
as said communication here is of prime importance . if you think something is wrong just tell him your trying to make sure your both on the same page and you appreciate him alot and his opinions on things. (EVEN ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM) make your man feel he's the most important thing in your life and he'll do anything for you. let him know he has your heart and attention at all times. keep the lines open at all times even during a disagreement. believe me you can disagree with out being disagreeable. their is nothing that can't be repaired with large quanities of love involved . it doesn't necessarily mean its easy \just more difficult . however when repaired after such a damaging expierience its not likely to be repeated again by either party. i hoped this helped some good luck
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reader, jodieleigh  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 tell him you were scared and you realize after losing him that you were in the wrong and beg for forgiveness .. tell him things often to make sure he believes you want him
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