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writes:I cum after I get into the girl and do about 4-5 pumps. It sucks. How can I last forever? Reply to this Question
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reader, so sick +, writes (18 August 2007):
Here is the best advice I can give. Jack off a couple of times during the day...and that might help you go longer during sex. ALSO jack off more...start working on like 6 times a day. I know a guy that did it!
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reader, Sandman +, writes (15 August 2007):
 Whoa there sparky. Lasting forever? How about just more than 4-5 pumps.
First off, relax. You've probably gotten yourself worked up about it over time. Try not thinking about the issue and focus on the sexual act itself. If this has happened quite often, it's probably a sign of Premature Ejaculation. Stress, anxiety (about performing well during sex), depression, and other mental/emotional issues can aggrevate the problem - so your first order of business is to figure out if any of these apply to you. If so, you need to work on these issues before you can enjoy sex passed 4-5 pumps.
I'm sure you're already doing so, but a condom can help. The condom can help to decrease the sensations felt during sex so that sex can be prolonged.
There are creams that can be applied to the shaft of the penis before sex occurs which act to desensitize the penis and help to prolong sex. Not to advertize for a company - but there are condoms that have the cream/gel inside the condom already. All you need to do is put one on and give it a go (Tojans Extended Pleasure is one such condom).
Masturbation can help. But only if you do it right. You need to learn your 'point of no return' threshold - the point at which no matter what you do, you're gonna cum. Masturbation is done to reach this point and learn what it feels like, how the sensations become more intense - so that you can stop sex which will prolong sex. This is called the start-stop method. Start having sex - once you feel yourself about to cum - STOP. Do something else like kissing, caressing, oral sex, breast play, etc. Then once the feeling goes away, start again. Some complain that this is annoying (especially when they're close to cumming themselves) so an understanding partner will definitely be needed. Open communication is the key. So - try masturbating for 5 minutes today - maybe 10 minutes the next time you masturbate (or 5 if you can't make 10). Maybe 15 minutes the next time. Bascially, slowly increase the time it takes you to ejaculate while masturbating. This will help you last longer when having sex.
Also, learning about your own body will take time - so perhaps you could consider no sex until marriage :)
Hope this helps.
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reader, beautifultrustnlover +, writes (15 August 2007):
 well sweetie guys tend to do this and if you can pull out for a few mins and try again the second time you always last way longer but also try to mental relaxing before and now getting your self way worked up over getting it on
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): Is it as soon as you insert your penis? Because when me and my boyfriend have sex he usually needs to do it straight away if I'm on top so we just kiss & cuddle for a minute till he's ready to go again [he hasn't cumed].
If it's a real problem maybe go see the Doctor, because you haven't really given much information.
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reader, niceguy07 +, writes (15 August 2007):
 your still young. i dont know how sexually active you have been, but it takes time to build up stamina. i dont know whether u want to last longer for yourself or your girl, but having great sex does not mean lasting an hour. if you are feeling like u just are not pleasing your girl efficiently, use manual and oral stimulation to get her to orgasm. as someone once told me, " treat the body not as an amusement park, but instead as a rare one of a kind chocolate. Enjoy it to the fullest."
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