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writes: why do i find that i always go off sex with my girlfreind but crave it with every other person.can any one help? Reply to this Question
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reader, bonym  +, writes (6 November 2006):
 Do you mean you crave sex with others and then go and have sex with others or are you simply lusting after others? You have some void and issue in your life and you think sex will fill it, it wont. Sex is a want, not a need, what you NEED is to address the issues and understand why you are pushing your girl away. Have you tried counselling? xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006): How old are you, by the way, because you sound young. By reading just your short posting, it's plainly obvious..you are not ready to settle for just one 'exclusive' relationship. I suggest you break up with your current gf. Cut her loose..she will heal and recover and find someone who appreciates her and will commit to her.
Now..about you. What I find most disturbing, is your attitude towards sex! If you are looking just for sexual jollies with other women...you have to think with your head (the one on top your shoulders) The party girls may comply but then you'll never know what type of little 'present' (std's) they may pass on to you. Believe me, many of them will have been with a lot of guys. The decent, quality girls won't just give it up that easy either, hun. Unless you can give an oscar winning performance, many of them will clue in. Your salivating after them will give you away like a big neon red flag!
But one thing you need to fully understand is that a sad fact of nature is that sexual intimacy creates emotional intimacy (and....babies. Better watch that, too) But even when both the parties to the relationship say "it’s sex but just for fun." In reality, it isn’t. Each romantic relationship takes something from a person’s heart, and each relationship broken, leaves a scar. Yes, males do get hurt, but this seems more predominant with females. So I suggest you get out there and date and enjoy the company of interested girls, but always stay real and honest. Understand any type of healthy relationship, including friendships, are based on trust, respect and caring not to cause pain to others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006): Definately "grass is greener" syndrome, if you feel this way then you really should'nt string girls along.
You need to live a little before you settle down and commit to a relationship.
When you meet that special person you will know, you certainly wont feel like having sex with everyone except them!!.
good luck
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 November 2006):
 I agree with the aunts, you just plain shouldn't be in a relationship. Cut her loose so you can play the field without breaking anybody's heart. Just don't be telling lies or making false promises to the ladies, now. Not everyone has to be in a relationship to have fun but one has always got to be honest about how they feel so there are no misunderstandings.
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reader, Cool Cucumber +, writes (6 November 2006):
 It's the 'grass is greener' syndrome. Once you have had something a few times you want to move on and explore new avenues. Sounds like you shouldn't be in a relationship if you feel this way. Wait a few years until you are mature enough to be in a steady relationship, otherwise you are going to break a few hearts and soon will be unfaithful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006): You want what you don't have and fail to appreciate what you do have. Grow up, please.
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