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writes: Hello.I have been seeing a guy a couple of months and he is now acting a bit strange. I asked the status of our relationship when we were drunk a few weeks back and it has all kind of gone down hill since. :( As he thought it was too soon to discuss it. We don't know each other very well, and were not friends before we met.He went away with work recently and contacted me as soon as he left the country and as soon as he got back. He hasn't asked me out on another date for about a week though, although he stays in contact by phone call or text. I think perhaps he is deciding what he wants from me whether he wants me to be his girlfriend or not. We get on really well and I really like him and would love to be his girlfriend but I guess I am going to have to play it cool and let him do the work now. Am I doing the right thing?? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): You are doing the right thing- sort of. You definitey need to give him space- this doesn't mean breaking off all contact! just keep in touch every few days via phone/text.
The most important thing is to not act in a way that would make him think ur not the type of girl he wants 2 b in a relationship with. Show him ur good qualities- that u can be supportive & understanding. Men hate pressure so at the first sign of it they run the other way. And women tend to put pressure on a guy for fear of losing him- but we don't realise that in order to keep a guy we have to play our cards right: make sure that he knows how u feel about him but don't act clingy in any way- if a guy knows he has a CHOICE and isnt being forced into something then he will often be atracted to u because he feels safe following his heart and so he knows it's real: because HE made the decision.
Resist the urge (all us females have it)to insist on an answer NOW - and stay calm!!
If he decides in the end he doesn't want that type of relationship with u then dont hold it against him- the poor guy is just being honest and cant pretend he feels sumthing when he doesnt. And if he chooses u- happy dating!
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