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writes:Hello there, i would like to know readers' honest opinions as to why i just can't get a boyfriend. People i know tell me I'm attractive, and i do get hit on by random guys, but i would like to know why i can't find someone who is genuinely interested.I personally consider myself average. In all aspects; looks, intelligence, personality, etc. So i suppose it puzzles me a bit. Anyways, thanks for reading!xoxo Reply to this Question
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reader, Stroller  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 I'd guess lots of really attractive girls consider themselves as "average" - you need to develop a little bit of self-confidence and a sense of empowerment here.
Guys worship girls! That's why they're hitting on you! You can have any of these guys that you want - doesn't that make you feel killer?
Please remember that there's nothing wrong with these guys for wanting to hit on you - ok, some just want to get laid, but there are other who are doing so because they genuinely want to get to know you. You are NOT a plain-Jane - you are a young woman, a goddess and a sexual mystery to guys your age.
You're asking us how to get a boyfriend when all these guys are hitting on you? Start talking to them - ask 'em why they came over to talk to you, and ask them about themselves. I guess at your age there will be a lot of jocks and braggards to wade through - some of the Aunts' comments about frogs probably show they know more about this angle than I do - so don't forget to keep one eye out for the shy guys, the ones who don't come over and talk to you, the one's who you maybe just catch them looking at you. Go over and talk to those guys - ask them about themselves, their schoolwork, their interests. Speaking as one of those guys I can tell you they'll be delighted at the attention of an "average" girl like yourself, and maybe one of them can help you feel a whole lot less average.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): thank your lucky stars you normal never mind average. You could have been born disable, blind deaf or dumb. Enjoy the life youve been given, be patient and some guy will take a fancy too you.
Instead of thinking what you haven't got focus on what you have. It will make you a lot happier person and this will attract the opposite sex.
Remember you have it all already.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): Be patient! You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you actually get to kiss the prince, well, that is what happened to me, so you will meet someone in the future. Lots of best wishes and hugs.
take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): Hi Hunny
Im sure one day you will find someone who finds you more than average hunny, It all takes time, It took me long enough..:} It was well worth the wait though, Your young and have lots of time, Enjoy your life and one day when you least expect it that someone will be standing in front of you sweetheart...believe me TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOTS OF LOVE AND SQUISHY HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Perhaps , you may have too high an expectations from your male friends.
Try lowering your standards.
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reader, Holz +, writes (19 March 2008):
Hi,Akay .... you have mentioned that you are average in everything i.e looks etc. What you need to do is stop looking! from NOW! your Mr Right will come to you. Thats it stop looking you might feel bored and impatient but trust me he will find you whether its on a bus or at work. Its kind of like when you have no money and you go shopping you find everything you want but when ypu have money you cant find anything. Im not sure if that makes sense but all i can say is go out enjoy being single because when you do find Mr Right you wont be ble to get rid of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): Maybe your focusing on guys too much. Get some interests outide of dating. music, play the guitar, wine making, skydiving etc. Then you will have a wider social circle, interests to talk about, and you will become a whole lot more desirable. the most desirable people are the ones people think they can't have, giving off an air of desperation is not attractive.good luck
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