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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi i hope you can help me, i've done a stupid thing. I've been married to my husband 3 years, he's gradually lost touch with most of his friends, whilst i still meet up with mine. Anyway i met up with this guy and one thing led to another and we ended meeting up and eventually had sex. My husband found out and is devastated. I told him our relationship had become stale. After much talking he said the reason he had lost touch with most of his friends was that i was insecure and did not trust him and that by doing this he was hoping i would change. He didn't want to constantly probe my insecurity as he found out this only made me worse.Now he's gone silent on me and taken up oil painting. What should i do?
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Counseling, if you two can't communicate.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): Depends on what you want now.Are you actually sorry for cheating on him? Or do you feel it was justified by the problems with your relationship with your husband, and you're just sorry for the trouble it has caused?Do you still want to be married to him now, or not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): This could be his way of dealing with it. At least he hasnt packed his bags and left, which is just what i would of done. He has helped you through your insecure times by losing contact with his friends, which is really sad. You should never lose contact with friends. Just be patient with him, confirm that you are sorry that this has happened and reassure him that you love him. Take each day as it come and try your hardest to get him to talk.Talk, talk and more talk and get over this.
take care
xx
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