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writes:What is the proper way to start a healthy relationship???I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a year ago. In the past year I have made a LOT of mistakes with guys. I either move too fast thinking the guys really really likes me and then of course when i have sex with him he loses interest. Then i do the opposite and move too slow to the point of the guy losing interest in me b/c i am not intimate. Are there certain steps you are supposed to take? When is the right time to trust a guy? The last guy i dated i waited a long time before we had sex, he called me almost everyday...yet he did NOT want a relationship. Maybe i'm just dating the wrong guys...
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (18 March 2008):
You say you moved to slowly with some guys because you woudlnt be intimate/have sex with them? If thats how the guy is and he loses interest then he was only interested in you for sex in the first place! A guy who is interested in you for more then that wont lose interest if you take a while before having sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): It sounds to me like you could be wasting your time on the wrong person. There are some great guys out there. I know what you mean though i have wasted a lot of time on wastes of space. They shouldnt even be given air to breath. Some one just right for you will come along and when that happens you will both know when the time is right to make love. Dont rush into it and do it in the first six weeks, get to know the person and they you. Be patient and you will be rewarded. But if you sleep with them straight away, then the mystery is gone and the slow love build has been shattered.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): It really is up to you. I'm 20 and my b.f is 23, we've been seeing each other for 1 year and yet to have sex. Nonetheless, the connection is still there and the love is almost bursting out of our bodies.(lol) we have pledged to remain abstinent till marriage, so far so good. There is more to a relationship than sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): You've got to date a few wrong guys til you find the right one. So don't let your past put you off honey. Everyone is different, every relationship is different, so its a hard thing to judge..
You've got to take it at your own pace, but not so quick you're having sex within a week. Maybe, 3/4 weeks then you have sex? To be honest, I wouldnt have sex with anyone unless I've been with him 2/3 months, but it seems like now my opinion on it just isnt relevant. The impression people give off now is that everyone just goes about having sex :P So just don't rush into it. If you see signs that he wants it, go for it if you're comfortable. Good luck :]
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