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writes:i have just recently told my fiance that i cheated on him..he told his sister and now she wants to beat me up..shes 10 years older than me and im scared.what do i do?
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (28 July 2007):
 I think first of you are very young to be engaged in the first place so that is a lot of pressure on one so young.
The fact that your fiance has run and told his sister is in one way he feels that he can talk to her and the other it is something he should have known how she was going to react. She is looking out for her little brother and that is quite normal. The fact that you know now that she wants to beat you up, did your fiance tell you this?
It if probably to put the frighteners on to you to never stray again.
How is the relationship with your fiance right now?
He is the most important one here not her.
I would keep out of her way and don't visit his house for a while, work things out between you first of all.
I think there must be something wrong in your relationship first of all for you to stray so were you going through a bad patch when this happened.
Was it a one off or was it constant cheating on him for a while. No one cheats unless there is problems in a relationship and both parties have to take a certain amount of responsibility for that. However, not everyone goes with someone else and you have basically hurt your fiance.
Tell those close to you friends or parents what has been said as you need them to be aware of how you have been threatened right now.
Keep smiling eh and keep talking to your fiance, over the phone in person but keep away from his home at the moment as the sister will be able to confront you on home turf so to speak rather than confronting you at your own home where your family surround you.
Try talking to the sister over the phone if your fiane initiates the conversation and say that it was a huge mistake and discuss the problems you had in your relationship and see how things go from there.
If she still threatens you then ask your parents to speak to your fiance's parents and perhaps sit down together and talk it through.
It could all be talk but just safeguard yourself right now. Don't hide this from your parents, OK you made a mistake but you shouldn't be physically beaten because of it.
Take care and keep us posted OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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