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*onythetiger123
writes:Hi, I have been in a relationship wth my wife for 15 years now and we were kinda childhood Sweathearts,, We got together when I we were young, She was 17 and I was 21.. We have had fun times and good times and she is Loyal and trustwrthy and pretty...But I got bored and I wanted something new so started an affair _I know I know... we have had break ups before (all me) but I always end up going back because I do love her,, I jut dont know if I should be leaving her for her sake or mine or go back and stop being an arse.... We got married 2 years ago after being together for so long cos she wanted to and now I am scared im doing the wrong thing or that I'll be left alone,, We dont have Children to think about but I dont know what to do... dont judge me,, help me...
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reader, dersita  +, writes (17 December 2010):
 You shouldn't have cheated on her in the first place!
But anyways.... You cant JUST get bored with her. Thats terrible! She's probably a really nice woman. Shes not boring. Your mind is playing games with you.
You said you broke up with her many times in the past. But you still went back to her. Which means your head hates her but your HEART loves her.
Only one thing to do: FOLLOW YOUR HEART OF COURSE!!
Your married to her now and THATS GREAT! You are NOT doing the wrong thing!
Get into a serious marriage with her and have kids! (if your planning to)
If you start making a family with her then your BOUND not to leave her!
Xxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): It sounds as if you love your wife for sentimental reasons, you met very young, you go back a long way. But it does seem as if you want to leave and start again. You are both still young and can start again. But 'doubt' is holding you back. If your marriage was very rocky it would be easy to leave. But although you have had problems there is still something holding you in the marriage. To be fair to her and yourself you need to really think carefully and honestly whether you see a future together, that means a committment which is life long without affairs and breakups.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (16 December 2010):
 I think you've been together for so long you ve probably been thinking you are missing out on something, like not courted enough women in the early days etc. Like the grass might be greener. I think you have found that it's not the case and you do love y our lady. You may deeply regret it one day if you get found out about your affairs or leave her. Try to find fun things to do together, you've no children to tie you down at the moment so the world is still your oyster to sort things out and find the love again that you first had.
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