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* gr8 frnd..
writes:i've been really very serious with my current bf for the last one year.. before that i had a long crush of 3 yrs on my best friend and now we still just remain the best of friends and my bf is very open minded and doesn't have any problem with it. i have lost my virginity to my bf and we've had sex 11 times in the last 5 months but my best friend is desperate to lose his virginity but his gf wont do it till they're married !! so my best friend lost his virginity to me but now he says that i shouldn't tell my bf about it. what should i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): I think that you shouldnt of dont that to your boyfriend! Although mistakes do happen and you have to live with that. My bestfriend cheated on her boyfriend several of times with one of her bestfriends, he did forgive her because he loves her, so i guess if you boyfriend truely loves you he will forgive you. I would just be sure not to make it a habit and i think You SHOULD tell you boyfriend because if not then you would have a big pile of guilt on your shoulders! Im no expert im just a teenager but i hope i helped. Oh and i also think, if your "bestfriend" is a real person then he should tell his girlfriend too and face what yall have done. :-) thanks.
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reader, d gr8 frnd.. +, writes (16 May 2009):
d gr8 frnd.. is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni don wanna cheat ma guy any more............
i m moving away from him.....
hope it helps...coz if i tell him he may forgive me but he'll be very hurt and i cant see it,,,
i know that i have realised it a bit too late but its also said that its better to be late than never
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): what have you actually learnt from all this. or it this just going over your head?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): Well his friend is not a best friend to him bc if he was and truly cared about him, he would have turned you down and then told him that you came onto him! Thats a true friend. He doesnt need you, and his friend...
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reader, d gr8 frnd.. +, writes (14 May 2009):
d gr8 frnd.. is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy best friend doesnt want to be the reason for my break up and he says that this wont happen again
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): life is not a game so please stop playing games.
virginity is not for sale.
you don't seem to realise this But you are in fact a cheater. you messed around with the bf and with your bf.
yourbf cheated on his gf and you with your bf. you both are in the dog box. so what will happen when another friend wants to lose his virginity and his gf doesn't. you step up and become the freebee whore. harsh words but you deserve it.
your bf's gf respects herself, she has morals and values. perhap you can take a leaf out of her book. you need to start defining what makes you a whore. stop becoming one for each friend that wants to lose their virginity.
sex should be personal and not just given to anyone. you are so young yet so blase about sex. it's time you started growing up and valuing yourself.
in a few yrs time you will just be so common that wvery boy will know who to turn to to lose their virginity. respect. darling!
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reader, SexDrive1ohhh1  +, writes (14 May 2009):
 Girl, what are you doing having sex and getting yourself into such tight-spots at such a young age?? I know you're probably rolling your eyes at me right now... but you need to get your priorities straight! Isn't sex special anymore?? Sex should be kept for the marriage bed! Or even until you're old enough to appreciate the true meaning of it! Oh, and what to do - i say you should tell your bf about it! If he really loves you, and you really love him - you two can work things out. But if not, then the relationship was not meant to be. And thumbs up to your best friends gf! It takes guts ;)
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reader, helpmaniac  +, writes (14 May 2009):
you blew it my dear and my guess is you are going to keep on having sex with your best friend!
HOWEVER, if you also truly love your boyfriend, PLEASE DON'T mention your extra sexual activity with your best friend!
If you do, you will only be making him very insecure and the last thing you want is to have an insecure BOY FRIEND!
ANOTHER ALTERNATIVE IS : Get Back to the drawing board . . .if you were willing to have sex with the person you call best friend, was it a coincidence or it was as a result of suppressed feelings... deal with that question now. . .PERHAPS YOU AND YOUR BEST FRIEND WERE DESTINED TO BE TOGETHER, PERHAPS NOT!
Yours: HELPMANIAC
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