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female
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36-40,
*adAsh6705
writes:Hello everyone...I am feeling a little down in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together about a year and a half and have lived together for awhile, and just recently parted with our roommates and moved into our own apartment together. One thing that worries me is that about a month ago my car broke down and so I was pretty dependent on him for awhile needing rides and borrowing money to fix the car... he basically had a complete meltdown, started acting depressed and irritable, distant and was putting me down and making me feel like such a burden on him. I understand that it was stressful (for both of us!! not only him as he was acting) but now I am so worried that he will react this way everytime something goes wrong. Also, a few months ago we were fighting A LOT and got into some pretty bad arguments to the point that I got fed up and broke up with him. He moved out and I was on my own for a month or so in which time I was seeing someone else, but I basically stopped talking to him whatsoever when I decided to go back to my boyfriend. The only reason I mention him is because he has contacted me lately and wants to see me, but that is a whole other story. Anyways, I am confused because after moving in with my boyfriend I continue to wonder if it will even work out between us. We have been getting along fine lately, but I wouldn't say it's great, our sex life is pretty much BORING, and I still can't kick this feeling that I am settling. I feel like I am still too young too be settling down with anyone right now. I am still in college and not ready to get married or anything, so it is hard for me to see our relationship as really going anywhere. I just feel trapped-I can't afford to live here on my own, so I feel like there is nothing I could do even if I did decide we should break up. I just wish that I could be free to go out and meet new people at school and just make some friends (I have only lived in this city for almost 2 years, so I don't know a lot of people here).Am I being irrational and just day dreaming, or should I be out there living my life? I feel like I got trapped into going back to someone I should have broke up with and I am just with him because I feel like I need him. I know he really loves me and would be heartbroken to know I feel these things, but I can't tell him because I'm just not sure and I don't want to screw up everything because I am just being unsure and confused! I feel like I love him, like I really care about him and sometimes I am really happy to be with him but other times I am not sure. Shouldn't I know by now?
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