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writes:I had cheated on my bf twice but not really had to boyfriends at once it was just a kissing thing that happens with two different guys in February and March.I was wondering if I should tell him or not. He's the love of my life I'm sure and I think it would just crush him! I feel really bad and we've been dating for almost 8 months
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reader, Spades  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 I agree with some of the above answers here. If you do love him, I would ruge you not to tell him. Clearing your conscience comes at a cost, and that cost is hurting the man you are with. Though is it impairative that you be honest and loyal to the man you are with, mistakes do happen. Both men and women, in a moment of weakness, can act upon it even if they are in a serious relationship and love the person they are with.
We are all human.
However, seeing as how this has happend twice, I would think about what you want right now. Do you want to be in a committed relationship or do you want to be free to explore and experiment on your own?
Just some food for thought.
Hope that helped.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 June 2010):
I would urge you not to tell him, but to break up with him. You've been going out for 8 months and you've cheated twice already? There is no way that you're ready for a relationship yet. Break up, have your fun and wait.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 Why did you cheat when you know how much it would hurt him, and you say you love him? Just an honest question. I think whether or not you tell him should be judged on how much you can have on your conscience and whether you judge this to be something that will happen again, or if you truly regret it and will never do it again.
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reader, raiders +, writes (14 June 2010):
 If he was the love of your life I doubt you would have cheated, not only once but twice. I think you are to young to know what is true love but believe me when you do meet the one, cheating will be the last think in your mind. I recommend you talk to your boyfriend and have a fresh start, maybe there is something missing in your relationship.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (14 June 2010):
 You're young and not ready for a relationship. I'd break up with your guy and stay single if you feel you can't have the self-control to remain faithful. Imagine ho you'd feel if your boyfriend and love of your life were cheating with other women.
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reader, boydjohn026 +, writes (14 June 2010):
I wouldn't tell him. I would enjoy my sex life for as long as I can. At least until I'm married
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