A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:"OPs Own Title" Ok first of all, i would like to say this a wonderful site that gives help to people who need it. I hope you guys take time to read through my story and let me know what you think of it. I met my first love about 7 years ago, when I was a freshman in high school. But let me tell you, we didnt start our relationship off right then. For 5 whole years, we had a on and off "relationship" because it felt like something always interfered between us that our relationship was never official, never clear as it should have been. We used to talk on the phone for hours and or chat until 3 or 4 pm. There are so many things that make it so special, I cant even describe it now. It's all in my head, fresh as if it happened just now, but I cant explain it all to you.But overall, so many things interfered with us during those 5 years. During those times, I stopped all contact with him for a year because he had a new gf. Then on a miraculous occasion we were brought together, since then we chatted and talked everynight, he eventually broke up with his gf of one year. Just when i thought things were finally straight between us I had to move far away.When I moved i had no option but not stop my relationship with him, because I thought it would hurt us both if we kept up with a so called "long distance relationship". I now have bf that i've dated for 2 years. Its great, and very serious but I still, I still can never forget my first love.And i feel like he still loves me too. I just hope one day I meet with him again, to set it all clear. Im not even sure what to ask now, but if you'd like, please let me know how you feel about this situation. Have you ever had a similar experiences, or maybe your opinions. Sincerely, Loveintheair
View related questions:
broke up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto YouWish, i think that was nicely said. my brain might just be "addicted to the past" as u said it. and yes, we do overlook the hardships that happened but only pay attention to the good times, so it might lead to a very onesided decisionmaking.
to Anonymous, yes pursuing what's in your heart is very romantic and adventurous. But i think I will stick with my hubby. Both of your answers made me realize how much he's worth. Maybe in the future, If i ever run across my ex, i hope we could have a talk about so that i could get some closure.
overall, thanks guys, stimes i just have these "emotional episodes" where i feel like missing the past again, but i should probably leave it at that.
A
female
reader, YouWish  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 It's easy to romanticize a past relationship, just as it's easy to romanticize younger times in our lives. Our minds tend to forget the struggles, burdens, and imperfections that were happening at the same time.
You have a case of not letting go of the past. You have to ask yourself, for 5 years, was it really outside influences that split us up, or were there honest-to-goodness problems in our relationship? I can point out one obvious one. If you both were so into each other for 5 years, why did he pretty much cheat on you with another girl for a year?
It may help you to break away from the past to remind yourself that he does not regard you in the same way that you regard him.
Fast forward to today - you have a new boyfriend who seems to think the world of you, and you've had him for 2 years. If you can't love your boyfriend now, you should break up and be single. But I predict that if you break up with your current BF, you'll be writing us again telling us how much you miss HIM, because your brain is addicted to the past.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): hey,
i hope this helps. i know exactly how you feel, you try your best to move on, and even though you meet others who are wonderful people you still can't help but feel that your first love is 'the one'!
the truth is, life ultimately is so short and if you really feel strongly about this person and think he feels the same, i think you should pursue it.
i'm sure right now that feels like a challenging thing for you to do with things standing in the way e.g. your new bf who you say you're in a fairly serious relationship with, but at the end of the day you have to do what makes you happy.
of course there is a possibility that things will have changed now, and you may find that trying to recreate that magic you had years ago might not happen, but obviously there is something missing with your current partner if you are still dreaming of your ex!
anyway, i hope things go well for you and that you make the right decision- take care
x
...............................
|
