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writes:So i cheated on my boyfriend. we're in a long distance relationship, so i'm making a trip down there in a weeks. I've been planning this trip for about 3 weeks now. And a couple days ago i cheated, and i told him. He's very understanding, and he forgave me. But i don't know if it's too soon to expect to see him when i go down there? I don't wanna make it seem too soon because i did mess up and i hurt him. I'm well aware of this situation. It hurt me more then it hurt him, honestly. I just need help on weather or not to go down there and see him? If it's too soon?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 It is never too soon to visit him. If you visit him now, he will see that you are regretful of what you did (assuming of course that you are). So worry not about the length of time it has been, just go to him and perhaps rebuild whatever trust there was between you.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Ven +, writes (19 October 2010):
Understand that cheating in our culture is seen as the big betrayal, so you should know two things:
1 - He gets to set the rules on how the two of you handle this. If he says it's fine, you need to go with that and go visit him like nothing is wrong.
2 - If he decides that it's okay and he forgives you, that is great (I wouldn't be able to do that). But, that doesn't give him the right to "Get even" in any way. If he turns around and tries to cheat, or starts mistreating you in any way, you need to see that it has nothing to do with what you did. If he said he forgives you, he can't hold it against you later.
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