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writes:me and my boyfriend, and also my daughters father have been together for two years. i have not been in love with him for about six months but i want it soooo badly to work out. he's done some really hard things to look past in our relationship and has tried to bring me down with him. i love my daughter sooo much and i really dont want to make a decision that is going to make her life worse! no parent would ever want to do that to their child.i recently started talking to another guy who i have known for a while and is an amazing person. we kissed, and so yes i cheated on my boyfriend. my boyfriend found out, and wants to work it out and feels bad and realized the changes to make our relationship work is within both of us. i told the guy i cheated on him with that i just couldnt talk to him right now and im sorry if i led him on or hurt his feelings in anyway. the only problem is i dunno if i should even bother with my boyfriend now i did what i did because i was and had been miserable for a long time, be single, or start it back up with the other guy. it wasnt some fling thing i really do have feelings for this other guy. i just don't know what i should do and cant seem to get an honest opinion out of anyone i know. so i need some help!!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 January 2010):
I would suggest to you that you cheating has perhaps woken your boyfriend up. Sometimes it takes an unhappy partner to cheat to make the other partner see that it's all wrong. That doesn't mean you were right, but perhaps this is the moment to start over with him. He has now seen that you're unhappy, and he wants to work things out. It's worth one last shot. Go to counselling with him, be honest and say everything you want to. Then listen to what he has to say. This might be a relationship that can be fixed if you are both willing to fix it and listen to each other and be honest. It's worth one last shot. So good luck.
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reader, octobersun31 +, writes (16 January 2010):
okay here's the hard truth. if you cheated, you're done. you've already said that you haven't been into him for 6 months. what do you think is going to happen? there is no magic cure to make you love someone. your daughter is much better off with two happy parents apart that two unhappy parents together.
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