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writes:im need of help my girlfriend of 5 yr also lived me as gone and left me she found out i cheated on her which ive said im sorry and i honestly do regret it she does mean the world to me and i just dont know why i cheated on her back in march and a few times before she was on to me to marry her but i said id never get married again but didnt really mean it she has since moved away to wiltshire but i really would love to win her back she as changed her phone number but did send me a email on friday to say she glad to hear im getting stronger and for me to remember she finds out everythng i do and who im with i also been told she is seeing some one else now how do i get her back i would do any thing to win her back any help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): just let her be. you destroyed her and the life she had with you. why do you even want her back. you did not care about her, you did not bother about her pain. she has moved on and she deserves happiness- happiness that you could not provide. . at least she has decided that the 5 years wasted on you is better than a lifetime. i am glad she has moved on. you see, the very people we profess to love, we actually destroy. it is only when they wise up and move on do we cry for the life we had with them. we never do think we will get caught or our loved ones will move on without us. you like so many others, have to now move on. at least be happy that she has perhaps met a man who values her, and sees the precious something in her, which you obviously did not. she has proven that she is a survivor and that she values her life again. well done to her. good thing, now that you are free you can have all the women you want.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 We often realize how much something mean to us only when we loose it. We often decide to change during those times too.
Although your intentions might be better, it is not up to you anymore.
The feeling of "He cheated" is the worse feeling someone can feel.
The only thing you can do is be there as a friend with hope that she'll forgive you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): I would have to say she would never take you back. I know it is not what you want to hear but you cheated on her. You broke a huge trust and I am sorry dosn't always fix it. Trust is a thing that takes ions to build and a heartbeat to destroy. She may care about you hope you do well but I do not see her taking you back. If my girlfriend ever did that to me, I would never take her back. I think you ned to move on, remember this as a learning lesson and don't cheat on your next girlfriend. Or lie which you admited you have done. I think you have some growing up to do
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reader, holikdad  +, writes (7 July 2009):
This is going to sound mean, and I guess it it, but I always try to be as honest as I can on this board, so here it goes.You don't deserve her, if you cheated before the chance that you'll do it again is really high, especially since it sounds like she caught you instead of you coming clean for what you did.She left because she loved you and trusted you and you broke that, there is nothing you really can do to restore what you've lost.My wife cheated on me, and even though we're still together I don't know if I'll ever get back to where we were.There is no excuse for what you've done, so don't try to blame her or make a stupid excuse like I was drunk and didn't know what I was doing. You knew what you were doing, and you did it anyway.Your best bet is to find someone else, and don't shatter their love and trust in you. The fact that your GF is sending you an email saying she's moved on is a testament to the fact that she doesn't want you back as a partner. She only wants to see if you're doing ok because there is still a small part of her that cares and loves you.Leave her alone, let her move on and be happy with someone who won't disrespect her in the same way you did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): cant you just let her go and be happy? you say you do not know why you cheated, if she meant the world to you as you say, then cheating would not have been an option for you.Its sad that you had to lose her to realise just what you had. Let her go if you feel anything for her at all, let her be happy, because if you did 'win' her back, she would have to live with doubt (however small) of would you cheat again.butif you are determined, and you know that you will never disrespect her again, then you need to talk to her face to face, open yourself up to her, let her know the reasons you cheated (saying you do not know why will never be good enough), ask her to forgive you, let her know that you are truly sorry, and then let her decide if you are worth another chance.goodluck
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reader, Brook_e_boo +, writes (7 July 2009):
 well cheating on a girl breaks there heart somtimes and u might have hurt her big time i would do somthing she likes mabe write her a poem send her a nice e-card any thing she likes work her trust back up tell her y u did it try everything that u know that might winn her back~!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!!hope u get this girl again!!!!!!!!!!
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