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36-40,
anonymous
writes:So the deal is Im sick of being constantly hurt by guys and now Im too scared to get involved with anyone because I feel like Im just setting myself up to be hurt again. Sure most of the time with them is great but when things go wrong/end it feels like the hurt outrules it all and its not worth being happy for that amount of time just to end up feeling so bad at the end of it all.I know I cant live my life being scared to actully LIKE a guy because if I do I know Ill never meet anyone worthwhile. But how many heartbreaks do you have to go through to meet the right guy?I feel I am constantly hurting over a guy. I know its not good for me to feel like this all the time. Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): Unfortunately to find the right person some of us have to go through dating a lot of people who aren't right for us and end up hurting us. Do not have sex early in a relationship no matter what!!! I just learned this the hard way. It ends in confusion and heartache. You can't not date because you are scared of getting hurt, you just have to be smart about who you date and don't do anything sexual early in the relationship. Wait for at least 2 to 3 months for sex. If he truly cares about you he will be willing to wait.
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reader, mister.m  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 Be hard to get.
By doing this, you will filter out the wussies only looking for sex. See how much effort the guy is putting into you and decide if he's worth it to have a relationship with you. Qualify him!
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