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writes: I was with my girlfriend for 4 years and I messed up the relationship by venturing out and cheating. I now know that my ex is the one and she says she still loves me, but she says she needs space. Have I lost her already?? She also says she is confused after a guy asked her on a date. She accepted and now works with him every day. Have I lost my love???
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reader, Aunty Nah +, writes (3 February 2006):
First things first...do u really want her to make things right or r u just used to her after 4yrs and fnding it hard being without her...if it's the latter then don't bother wasting your time or her time just move on...it may be hard but time's the best healer. Furthermore, if it is her u want, then do let her know, write a letter explainin y u did what u did and what u have 2 offer her again and that it WONT happen again, saying it 2 her face or on the fone may piss her off so write it and then give her space and in time, she will come back, but u must show her u r genuine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2006): well we all have to learn the hard way sometimes, and personally i dont think you deserve a second chance at all, do you think its fair that she should take you back after something you do? that would be alot of pain and hurt she would have to try get over, and really i dont think she has too deal with that because it was not her that stuffed up in the first place, you should be ashamed, let this girl go and let her find a man that has a bit more respect for her feelings.
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reader, lori +, writes (1 February 2006):
if after 4 years you felt the need to have an affair then maybe your girlfriend is not the one its very difficult to ever trust someone again after this infidelity it can happen but not over night if your girlfriend feels she wants to give you a second chance then let her call you if your love is not lost then this will happen its a very hard lesson to learn and we have to learn by our mistakes you must explain why you did this and maybe the wounds will start to heal in the mean time stay away from the other girl otherwise the situation may be come worse
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (1 February 2006):
 Sadly you have thought the grass was greener and now you know it is not, you have betrayed the trust of your partner after 4 years, but you know this so i will not labour the point, what to do next is what you want advice on, well my advice is simple, humble yourself to her and say once again how stupid you were, how sorry you are and how much you want another chance, tell her you realise you have hurt her and that you know this will take time to heal, tell her why you did what you did, there must have been some problems with the relationship so soul search and see if they will still be there.
Accept it if she says she wants space or if she wants it to end, try and stay friends if this is possible.
Good luck and remember the grassis never greener it is always the same grass just a different field.
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