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writes: My girlfriend and I have been sexually active for 6 months and it seems as if my orgasms during sex are quite fast. I have tried the extended lubricated or climax control condoms but it only prolongs it for roughly 3-5 minutes. I try to stay calm and just relax, and it works occasionally but I really don't like it to only last for a short amount of time. Is there anything that I can do to make me go long? Being quick is embarrassing and a pain in the ass. Please help me anyone.
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reader, b1sheaba +, writes (7 February 2006):
b1sheaba is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey everyone for that advice pinching the head really works and i have gotten rid of the extended climax condoms thank you very much again i really feel secure in my sexual encounters with my girlfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2006): hey man no big deal.
A lot of guys exaggerate how long they last. In truth according to recent studies (I heard this on the radio the other day) the average man lasts 2 mins. after penetration has occured.
I'm not that quick myself and have gotten to a place with my girlfriend where I have better control but this took time and effort.
Firstly consider the pace you move at. Extend foreplay to compensate and focus on her more in that time. This helps calm things and set the tone. Second be real about the pace you're going to go at. If you're doing it like you're in a race it doesn't matter what you do, you realistically will only be able to last for so long with such high stimulation. Vary your pace. Come to know when you think you're getting too close and then slow it down or just even stop completely for a moment while still inside her and kiss her.
Also if you feel you're getting close switching positions to something unlike the position you're in usually also buys some time and makes the sex more involved for both of you. Go in one position till you get to where you think you can't take it anymore and then switch up to something that will stimulate you and her in a different way.
Regardless of what you do at the end of the day you have to be realistic as well. Find out what your girl likes also. I've been with girls in past who liked it quick fast and hard. Girls like that probably know that at that kind of pace its not going to be an all night affair but get off on it nonetheless.
Some of the other girls I've been with love going long.
In these cases having sex multiple times consecutively is my best suggestion. After you've climaxed keep things warm by going back into foreplay. Touching and oral stimulation are always fun, so you can keep things going like that until you're ready for round 2. or 3. or whatever.
I wouldn't recommend using desensitizing creams or stuff like that. It can take away from you in ways that, while you may last longer, decrease the pleasure you get from sex - which is really the only thing that should matter.
Try mastering yourself in the bedroom physically and mentally, cause ultimately thats the best and only real way to achieve lasting results.
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reader, lori +, writes (1 February 2006):
you are not alone in this quest for longer love making try to start by not having penetrative sex for about 10 days, try foreplay in the first instance this can be a sensual massage try lavender oil which will help you both relax and then move on from there you could always pinch the end of your penis when you feel the orgasam approching this will stop it and allow you to make love making longer im sure your girl friend will understand that this is something you must both experiment with
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (1 February 2006):
 This is not an uncommon problem in blokes who are just beccomming sexually active, you will last longer as the novelty of sex wears off a little, and when you stop worrying about it, there are techniques you can use, you will find these in books on sex, you may want to try releaving yourself prior to your date, or have sex and then do it again as soon as possible after this will make you last longer and so you and your partner can have better satisfaction.
I suggest getting out some sexual education books or videos as they concerntrate on foreplay but cover subjects like this and give good adviced.
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