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writes:I been with my boyfriend for 5yeras we ahve a child together.. I been very unhappy and i cheated.. He found out but he still wants to be with me but I dont. I dont know what to do. I dont Love him anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): You have stated that you are not happy and that you dont love him anymore. Yes you have a child, but you should not hold onto the relationship just for the child. Children observe more than you think and they watch how they're parents treat each other, you want your child to know how to love right? Then dont hold on to this relationship just because you have a child, you will both be in his or her life and happier.
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reader, doublejack +, writes (14 January 2011):
It sounds to me like this relationship is over, whether your boyfriend recognizes it or not. Sometimes a couple will stay together thinking it is best for the child, when in reality a child deserves to be raised in a loving, harmonious environment. So splitting can sometimes be the right choice, and in this case that's what it sounds like. Best of luck!
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (14 January 2011):
You cannot stay with someone just for the sake of pleasing them. You have made it clear that you are unhappy - there really is no point in plodding along, its not good for either of you or your child.
It is very upsetting for all parties when you do split, but we all get over it with time.
Remember, you are not responsible for his happiness. You must sit him down and tell him it is over and that you "love" him, but you are not "in love" with him. It will hurt him, but I am afraid the truth always does.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (14 January 2011):
 If you're unhappy and you don't love him then there's not much left to save. Don't stay for the sake of your child. Do you want him/her to grow up watching his parents in a loveless relationship? A happy mum is a good mum.
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reader, ItsCRAZY +, writes (14 January 2011):
The best thing that you can do is get out of the relationship with u being unhappy will lead to an unhappy home and with your child seeing that it will lead to an unhappy kid...do whats best for your child.If you can't make it work then you need to let him know and get out of the relationship.
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