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*erfectlyimperfect
writes:Cheating is not or will not ever be worth it! I cheated and have been suffering for it for the last two months. Its driving me crazy! He treated me bad for so long and never wanted to even have sex with me. I got turned down countless times when I wanted to have sex with my boyfriend. He told me so many times to find someone else to have sex with. He told me that the only reason he lived with me is because he felt sorry for me. Yes I cheated. I was good for 4 years and I had had enough. He called me names every week and put his hands on me when I made him really mad. I couldnt take it anymore. I lacked attention and sex and my emotional needs were not being met at all! Is this all excuses? No! I am simply stating why I cheated. I hate that I did it and after seeing the pain I caused him I never want to do that to anyone again. Should I have left him? Yes. I wanted to but something kept me hanging on. Now that he knows the truth he has been putting me through it and calling me names and telling me he will never forgive me, but he still stays around. One day he is sweet and the next he says he cant take it and wants to move out. I am a good girl who made mistakes. What should I do? I feel like I am going crazy! I cant get him to understand me. I really do regret what I did and I do have a good heart. I want him to forgive me but its not looking too good. Can someone please give me advice? its driving me crazy! and for anyone reading this who is cheating, please stop now and admit to it. It is a huge weight lifted off your shoulders and its fair to the other person. Please stop this epidemic and do the right things in life. If you got to see the pain it caused him, you would understand its not right to cheat. I never seen someone is such pain and to think I caused it, kills me! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): 2 wrongs don't make a right.
Your bf was not the perfect bf but he was a faithful one.
I think u now know that no matter how problematic a relationship is ,it doesn't justify having an affair.
OP I do not know what else to tell you, you have said it all.
You are both suffering and I do not know whether your love will withstand this betrayal.
At least u know that he loves u after all.
I know I am not adding anything new to u, I just wish u well in whatever you decide.
LoveGirl
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reader, SillyB +, writes (1 December 2010):
 The bigger problem here is that he abuses you! You're actions, although wrong, were the reason of him 'putting his hands' on you and neglecting you. Why save this relationship my dear? WAlk away, its only going to get worse from here. Before, when you had done nothing wrong he treated you badly, how do you think he'll treat you now having this type of ammunition against you?
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