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36-40,
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writes:hi what kind advice could i get to get my man to want me more or just to make hem a little jealous in a good way...we been togther for two years now but it just seems like nothing bothers hem about me i knw its a good thing that he trust me but sometime a women need to feel that her man does get jealous over sumthing please help
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reader, Abella +, writes (1 December 2010):
 i dont think you need to get your man's back up by artificially implying you just might be getting some interest from elsewhere. Jealously is not positive. Thus your plan could dent his trust in you.
In public be a lady. In private, flirt with him at every opportunity. Be naughty and saucy but in short, sharp, unexpected little flirty actions, when he's least expecting it. But only in the privacy of home, between just the two of you and with no observers present. Bump his hip with your hip as you pass in the corridor. Give him a slow, but short, sensual neck and back massage. You can be as flirty and audacious as possible. Serve his favourite meal at the table, with a kiss on his cheek as you serve it. Share a shower and soap him everywhere. He will notice!
Ask him to tell you the three goals he would love to work towards achieving in his life. No suggestions from you. This is about tapping unto his dreams and aspirations. Ask him what would he like from you, in terms of moral or emotional support or any changes in direction or focus, to help him reach those goals. Men need goals to work towards, otherwise they sink into mundane doldrums and just exist without achieving goals.
Great ways to make your man feel good is to stop nagging. That's his Mum's job, not your.
Don't expect him to notice you. Instead make some changes to how you act around him. And changes to how you relate to him. And how you speak to him. Or treat him. Or how you present yourself. Then watch him react and change his outlook and actions in response.
Nicer ways to create a perk up to the relationship is to take a day off, for serious pampering for you. Get your nails and hair done. Your legs smooth as silk. As well as a super luxury facial at a day spa. Greet him when he next sees you later that day, with your skin glowing, and maybe a change of hair color, looking knock out gorgeous. He will notice.
Suggest you join a gym together and both get superfit together. Exercise releases endorphins that make you feel good. Exercise makes you fitter. And that leads to making you both more energised. It could be the spark you need to light some inner fires? Need i say more?
When he's next watching on tv something he really enjoys nonchalantly put at his side some interesting snacks you made and a bowl of peeled grapes. Don't interupt him, don't assume he should notice and remark at first. But later, i'd be surprised if he doesn'tt volunteer some appreciative comments. Men love being pampered better than their friends. He'll feel like a king.
Another way to make him realise you are special, is to demonstrated your deep empathy and understanding of the things that really matter to him. Listen to him without any interruping.
When he really has finished wait and allow a little silence, then briefly in a sentence paraphrase what is your understanding of what was said. Or at least one part that you thought special. Then ask him an intelligent open question, relating to what he just told you, that requires further detailed
explanation from him. Guys love it when you enjoy what they like. Listen carefully to the answer. He wants confirmation that you are on his side.
Not certain if you live together or not. But if you do live together, make him lunch to take with him, but tuck a discreet short love note in the lunch container. He should get surprise at that.
Good luck with rejuvenating things.
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