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writes:I cheated on my boyfiend at the New Year he doesn't know but I was wondering what I should do, he doesn't suspect anything. Shall I just keep it to myself or tell him what happened?Please help this is so important. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): I agree, tell him. Pick your moment carefully. If you don't tell him, it will always be on your conscience. Ask yourself also why you cheated - was something wrong in the relationship? If he stays, try and work on that.
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 u should tell him and let the cards deal the results. remeber, if it was the reverse.... u should not even be asking this question. it should be clear what must be done. however, u should not of ever of cheated on him. then u would not be in this predicament. if ur afraid he is going to break up with u, then be prepared he most likely will. u should of just avoided cheating on him and breaking up w him instead. because now u have scarred him for life and the next girl has to deal with the messy cleanup and whatever residue is left from ur damage. why cant people seem to think of thisd? i would never want to date some body who is not trusting of me or screwed in the head because some girl was less then honorable to him, and faithfulness and fidelity are my number one priorities. thank god i will never have to worry about this because my bf is a hardline about fidelity. and he never fails to tell chics he meets 20 seconds into a conversation hes with me and how much he loves me and how crazy he is etc about me and our daughter. it gets me upset when i hear people just dont get what fidelity is all about and how they whine and go on a pity trip after cheating. best of luck to u though sweegtie. hopefully u will never do this to another guy. fidelity should be a quality u stand for 100%. not when things are great and then u let slip when the going gets too tough. if ur not happy or satisfied or u suspect somethings wrong, better to leave and lick ur wounds and heartmurmurs then to scar a guy, and leave others to deal with the end results.
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reader, Lucy2118 +, writes (26 February 2008):
 I think you should tell him, he'll be mad but if you don't it'll always be in the back of your mind. Tell him and deal with the consiquences from your actions.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (26 February 2008):
 Can you live with the guilt of keeping it to yourself or do you think it will eat you up inside till you blurt it out? Is there anyway he will find out? Do you really want to have this hangiing over your head?
Its up to you if you tell him or not but if it was a drunken mistake im sure he will forgive you, but if you think that this will never happen again i see no harm in keeping it to yourself if you can live with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): If it was a minor thing then keep it to yourself, but you have to never ever tell anyone or it will get back to him. Is it possible that the person that you cheated with might tell all? If yes, then tell your bloke before it is common news. But the whole thing is up to you. If you think you can keep it quiet then i wouldnt say a word, and even if cornered i would try and deny all.
take care
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 well was this a drunken kiss or sex? if it was sex then you should ask yourself why you felt like you had to go to someone else for it. if it was a drunken mistake of a kiss, then its up to you. if you feel that its important and is going to affect your relationship then you should tell him. but you have to be prepared for the worst - a break up. how long have you been together? if its only a few months then id just try and forget about it and not do it again. if you want more help just email me hun good luck xxx
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