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writes:God I am so stupid, well I know what everyone is going to think when they see this, "what a whore". Well here it goes... Iv been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and Im only 21. We love eachother and we have had a lot of problems but we have always made it through. Hes cheated on me and Iv cheated on him. Well we are in a long distance relationship and I found out he was talking to other girls and lieing to me about them again. I dont know if he physically cheated with these girls but probably so. Now I am the one cheating on him with his ex best friend. He knows iv cheated on him with this guy before. So hes already suspicious. I think I do it to get back at him and Im lonely. His friend is a really good guy. I dont want this all to blow up ion my face and I want to stop how do i get out of this mess!!!!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Forgive yourself and others and turn over a new leaf. Give your b/f another chance and try your best. In time , all those sad things will fade from your life.
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Both of you guys are in the same boat from the sounds of it, I think you guys need to have a hert to heart about whats going on and whatnot.
You may be cheating for revenge, but why the hell is he cheating? If I were you I'd want to get of the bottom of that one.
If he's already suspicious there's a good chance he'll find out sooner or later, so it might be best to tell him, but that's up to you.
Also, if he's cheated on you a few times in the past, but this guy you've got a fling with now is a good guy like you say he is, maybe you're with the wrong guy? Just a thought.
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reader, rcn +, writes (28 January 2008):
 You need to tell him that you are. I don't think you're stupid or a whore. I think your decision making needs some work. You can get back at people, but all you do is take a problem and add a problem on top. Revenge isn't a good solution to problems, and it generally doesn't have a good ending.
I think you need to work on your sense of self, and developing your standards of morals and character. I'm not someone who'd cheat, even when cheated on, I wouldn't do that because it goes against my personal beliefs. Just because someone else does something, it's not OK to compromise yourself and your beliefs to retaliate against that person.
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reader, hello1  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 I don't think your a whore. Both of you are cheating so both of you are in the wrong. This relationship needs to end, you are not good for each other, simple as.
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reader, Jmo +, writes (28 January 2008):
 I'm currently in a similar situation only I live with my boyfriend. He works all the time and when he comes home, all he does is sleep until he works again in the morning or get shitty drunk and start a vicious argument with me. So it gets pretty lonely. I've recently became very close to his best friend and (who I've known for several years) and It's caused a strain on all three of our relationships with each other. Every once in a while, the friend and I stop talking because of this and everything is fine, but then I get lonely or angry and go back to him, causing the problem to happen again. I know I'm in the wrong and obviously can't give you the best of advice, but you should consider keeping things more casual with your boyfriend (at least while your status is long distance) and be honest with him about it. I know I'd probably feel better having everything out in the open (I'd be more honest with my BF if it weren't for my living/financial situation.) Sorry I couldn't be of more help but I can empathize with you. The heart wants what it wants, and sometimes it wants too much. Good luck.
-Jmo
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reader, Trinnity08 +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Firstly your not a whore , just confused . To get out of this mess you need to stop cheating and speak to ur man explain how you feel and tell him that if he wants to make a go of it then you need to honest and monagomouse because all this decietfulness is hurting yourself and everyone else , im sure you dont want the rest of life to be like this so its make or break xxx trinnity
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