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writes:i caught my partner having sex with my brothers wife! he said it was a mistake and begged me to forgive him. A year has passed, we have moved from the UK to NZ to start again, we are happy but i still have this image of them both and just dont understand why it happend! will i ever be able to forget and put this behind me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2007): Do you trust him now? or is it still just a traumatic event in your mind that plays over and over. I have recently attended EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and this can help as could possibly hypnosis. The bigger question is do you want to stay with your partner more than break yourself free from it completely and leave him? We all have different views but the important thing is to not waste years and years with a man who is holding you prisoner in your own bad memories because of a dreadful selfish act on his part. Find a man who can treat you with the respect you deserve. We all make mistakes but he betrayed an entire family.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (23 July 2007):
 You can't run from the truth. You need to seek therapy as a couple if you hope to resolve this issue. You can not out run your mind.
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (23 July 2007):
 Oh my, that is something that is unforgiveable and unforgetable. Well it depends how different people would react to this, but it seems like its something that could haunt you forever, i know it would certainly haunt me forever. Its whether you can come to terms with this and whether you are ready inside to move on, it seems like you arent at the moment. You say that you're happy together though? Thats a good thing, but maybe you should have a break from him, like a mini holiday on your own to think? Away from it?
Sorry if ive babbled.
I hope that everything works out.
xxxx
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