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writes:Hello I'm having a confusing situation right now with a female friend we cuddle when she drinks and the other night we had sex and I care about her a lot she's very close to me I care about like I've never cared about someone it doesn't feel like a physical thing to me we talked about it a little she said she doesn't want a relationship right now and the then she told me she cares about me and she feels a connection. when we slept together we cuddled all night and half the next day I don't. Know how to take what she says the day she told me she didn't want a relationship that night we made out and she slept with me for a little I'm so confused at this whole situation how to I keep what we have going? What should I do please hellp!! Reply to this Question
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reader, bella5153 +, writes (21 March 2011):
She's just saying it, just to say it. You both have your whole life ahead of you. She's telling you she does not want to be in a relationship, let alone a committed relationship. Now you really have to take a step back and ask yourself... Do I want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with me? You're more deserving of that! You have a lot to offer and a lot to give... she's not the one for you otherwise, she'd want to be with you. And always keep in mind... what she says and her actions are two different things! Good luck!
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 Problem no one. She's young and she drinksProblem no two. You love her but really don't know herProblem no three.You could be co-dependent and not realize itProblem no four Sex is not the answer to love it is the result of love.Problem no five. She is not interested in a RS, you are not accepting her truth.Problem no six. Caring about someone means many things and many of those things take alot of time and alot of situations before the word Caring can become an earned term. Problem no seven. This will hurt but you will hopefully learn oddles about your future adventures.
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reader, thegraveyarddoll +, writes (21 March 2011):
Maybe consider that you are overanalyzing the situation. sometimes being best f-buddies is a great thing...and if you just relax and go with it, who knows..it may end up so much more. if it doesnt, dont freak out either. if she knows how you feel about her, and ur confident you know how she feels (if you dont, ask her next time you have sex, or are in a romantic moment) then all you can do is sit back and enjoy the time you are spending together.
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