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writes:I've recently been posting questions here on dear cupid asking advice towards an awkward situation right after meeting my LDR for the first time a week ago after talking for over 4 years. Despite the awkward feeling that occured after our visit she has been drifting further and further away from me ever since then and I simply just can't take it. I miss her so much and even while we text each other it's like not even her. She continues to talk to me but as if she's a whole different person, like if she's just someone I know rather than someone I'm close to and have a relationship with. I just want to know whether it'll be a good idea to bring this up with her and actually talk about it rather than suffer not knowing why she's being so distant. I'm so distressed.
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reader, bella5153 +, writes (21 March 2011):
You're only tormenting yourself by holding back. Bring it up, tell her how you feel and see where she's at. Hopefully she'll be upfront and honest with you. Whatever decision she makes, you have to respect it, accept it for what it is and move on. Good Luck
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 Let this be a life lesson to you and to all who read your post.Life in cyber space is a fantasy at best. We can be anyone we want to be. It's a safe place to play.But on the flesh and blood side of life we have nothing to hide behind. Not only that but you can't develop a flesh and blood chemistry from the privacy of your home. We are still in human form on this planet, until we are all living in cyber space with our heads tapped into it like the Matrix, we will be a product of the flesh.When eye meets eye, there is a connection or there is not.That's the bottom line on human chemistry. For some who meet eye to eye having met online and the chemistry is there, there is a better chance at a RS. However, these meetings should take place much sooner than 4 years before either finds they will not be for each other.However, you have built a healthy RS online and maybe that has had it's advantages, not all is lost.Though next time you meet online, best set up a face to face within a month, so as not to waste your time finding THE ONE. On the flip side she may be afraid you don't like her.Maybe she has some insecurities, ask her, find out the truth act accordingly.
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