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writes: My girlfriend and I have been together 6 yrs. 3 months ago she decided to start to flirt with some guy on myspace. It progressed into her playing with herself while she would talk to him on the phone, in my bed. I did some snooping cuz I could tell there was something up. I found messages of her telling him he is bestest guy ever, and why cant she find someone like him. This is what really killed me. See at that time she was ignoring me. Didnt want to talk, no sex, things changed so much. While all of this was happening I was taking care of most of the bills, she was driving my truck, and not working. Well I confronted her. She told me she was not happy about where we are living and she might be having second thoughts about us. After she decided she wanted to stay, I found a week later that she was still writing and talking to this guy. I told her she was killing me and asked her to leave. It took all of 2 full days for her to convince me to take her back. 1 week later I found out she was still in contact with this guy. Again big fight, she convinced me to let her stay. At this point I dont think she is talking to him anymore, but everything has changed. We dont talk about things anymore, sex is few and far between, and I feel really insecure that she might not love me anymore. I need someone who is gonna be there for me through thick and thin. I need some attnetion. What can I do? Should I laeve her? Please help thanx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): hi. you know i am sorry for her,because it seems she is not certain of what she needs herself. and I think it's time to let her out of your life, if not for ever, then until she makes sure of her feelings towards u.
i wish you the best.
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reader, A Spirit +, writes (13 January 2007):
A Spirit is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJovial, you are so right. I have been tring to get her to tell me her feelings the whole time we have been togeather. As far as I know she hasent been a cheater. She is very transparent and I can usually tell if something is wrong. I am the most faithful guy I know of. She has always been my world.
I belive this all started when she reconnected with some old girlfriends. Ever since she seems distant and uninterested. She claims that she started talking to this guy because I was ignoring her, and he was helping her deal with it. Mabye I was not myself but I backed off cuz it seemed like she was pushing me away. I also constantly asked her what was wrong, but the answer is alyays the same, nothing
Thank you all so much for the replies. It helps for women to tell me I'm not crazy. If any single ladies are looking 4 a good man, 28, I will probably be avaible soon.
Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007): The evidence is there! sorry to be brutal but what are you waiting for? Get rid of her and find a girl who is with you 100%. Life is just too short and you shouldn't be wasting a minute of it. Get rid!
Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007): The evidence is there! sorry to be brutal but what are you waiting for? Get rid of her and find a girl who is with you 100%. Life is just too short and you shouldn't be wasting a minute of it. Get rid!
Take care
xx
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reader, eddie  +, writes (12 January 2007):
 You've caught her fibbing three times. What more evidence do you need. She's dishonest.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (12 January 2007):
 Hi there
I think this rship is in big trouble, and her lack of respect for you might be a factor which is being bypassed; I don’t know how u guys settle your differences but it seems as if a lot remain unsaid because she keeps “cheating” and you keep hurting, its like u are in a big circle all you do is run around without even thinking that there might be a crack somewhere, let me ask u a question: what caused this whole mess at the first place? Is she a cheater? Have u ever betrayed her? I am asking all this questions because she seem disrespectful chatting on your bed is disgusting if u may allow me to say the least, you take her back and she went back and do the same thing; you say you need some attention which makes sense but did u ask urself if she is doing it because she lacks any attention from u? judge for yourself.
I think if all this started because she is loosing interest in this rship, I say she needs a firm hand, sit her down lower your voice and calmly tell her how u feel, u both need to be happy in this rship if u cant make each other happy well u know what to do. If u believe this is worth fighting for well try your best without loosing hope, but know when trying is enough.
All the best
jovial
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007): Yeah you should finish with her. The trust has gone and the doubt has been planted in your mind. She obviously just doesnt want to find somewhere else to live. She is trying to play you for a fool, dont let her. Trust is hard to regain and she hasnt made much of an effort to do that. Get yourself someone who wont take you for a ride.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007): Yup, you should leave her. Clearly she's bored, or confused about what she wants and who she wants to be with. You deserve better! I know it's a big, scarey step, but it's time to find someone else. The fact that she's been texting some guy, while she's at your house, living off your generosity, shows total inconsideration on her part. You may love her, which is why she's been able to con her way back into your heart and your home three different times -- but I question her ability to love you back. Dump her ass! You'll be glad you did.
Good luck.
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