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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:This man has been harassing me for years! We had a brief relationship 3 years ago, it was very intense but it ended quickly. He cheated on me with a hooker! We were sort of on a break though, and I was cheating on him too, though I don't think he knows! But he just went crazy after that, apologizing to me 1000 times, blowing up my phone, letters gifts and whatever. I try doing everything I can possibly think of to get him to leave me alone, but he just can't get it into his THICK CREEPY HEAD. I start off trying to be nice about it, but eventually I try being mean too. I date other guys and make sure he knows about it, I ignore all his calls or anything he sends. One time, he sends me a big box in the mail. I take it to the post office and have it returned to sender without opening it. Then on my last birthday, he comes from all the way across country to my house. I see it is him through the curtains and don't answer the door! But my heart is racing so fast. I felt so helpless and trapped. That night I email him saying I hate him for not listening to me and hes a creep and I will call the cops if he bothers me again! He sends me a reply back apologizing for the millionth time and saying he doesn't want to be thought of that way and will leave me alone. I don't believe him! I say Leave me alone! this is you last warning! as a reply.Now I haven't heard from him in 6 months, Its never been that long before. No letters gifts calls texts emails or anything. Why do I feel this urge to call him or even show up at his house? I am thinking of him more and more lately. Its even getting to where its hurting my relationship with my boyfriend. I hate myself for feeling this way! What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): you may not have liked that attention he was showering you with but now that he has stopped you are suddenly craving it?? this is very unhealthy and now you are obsessing about him.
now you need to let him go just as he let go of you. he may not have been proud of what he did (cheating on you) therfore he wanted forgiveness but went about it the wrong way. you now perhaps want him back in your life (sadistic nature of yours??) he has learnt his lesson. if he is genuine then plse let him be.
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reader, Tonigirl +, writes (16 May 2009):
 Don't do it. It might be a sick and twisted trap. If he isn't contacting u in any way and then u call or whateva he'll think that u really do care. I'm going though something like this. For a while I would bagg him to leave me alone then cuss him out. Then i got sick of it and just startrd igging him. Now he is slowly leaving me alone. I only get a like 4 text's a day and 3 private calls. I just feel for u and hope for the best. Stay strong.
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reader, Mr.Insignificant +, writes (15 May 2009):
 It is because you crave the attention no matter how unhealthy it is. Go see a counselor as this is not normal.
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